Question of the Week: May 1st, 2018.

What’s something you wanted as a kid and still really want?

I wanted a robot best friend.  I blame this on the talking doll from the magic faraway tree.  I think I like the unquestionable loyalty that such a friend implies.  Making friends is really hard, and sometimes you lose friends even when you are doing everything right.  So having a friend that will always be there for you is really appealing. There are also many ways it’s super creepy, but they weren’t as obvious to childhood me…

Are there any things like this that have still made an impression on how you view the world today?

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Building a Mosaic from a Shattered Future

This post is for the April 2018 Carnival of Aces (“All the birds but us…”). Cross-posted to Prismatic Entanglements.

Content Note: contains a brief mention of sexual assault, and discussion of the impact of trauma on relationships. Continue reading

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To build an unimaginable future (or, Queenie is way too jazzed about queer futurity)

This post was written for the April 2018 Carnival of Aces on “All the birds but us…”  In typical Queenie fashion, I’m getting this in at the last possible second, but if you can type at supersonic speeds, consider writing a submission as well!

Content warnings: spoilers for a movie that came out in 1939, some pessimistic talk about the future and trauma

In spring of 2014, I was assigned a portion of Lee Edelman’s No Future for a class.

I hated it.

I hated it so much, in fact, that I vagueblogged about how much I hated it.  I hated it so much that I decided that I was going to prove Lee Edelman wrong with every part of my existence.  Like many things that I start as semi-jokes, it very quickly became not so much a joke as a way for me to conceptualize why what I was doing mattered.

Yeah, this is it.  This is the post where I finally talk about queer* futurity.

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Linkspam: April 27th, 2018

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Community Activity

The video for the Aro/Ace Atheists panel from OrbitCon has been posted.

The UK Asexuality Conference will be held July 8.

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Question of the Week: April 24th, 2018.

What sites or places do you use to discuss asexuality? If you are in multiple spaces have you noticed different cultural norms?

 

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Question of the Week: April 17th, 2018.

If you could send a message back in time to the earlier ace community, what would you say?

If I could change the way the ace community developed, it would be by introducing the idea of different levels of attraction way earlier.   There are still many people who have heard about asexuality but not aromanticism for example. I think that if at the time the ace community was starting to become more involved in the wider queer community there was a lot more discussion about the different types of attraction and this became more normalised, there would be many ace and aro folks that felt less othered today.

Do you have any advice or warnings for the early ace community?  Or positive messages you would like to share with them?

If you would rather answer this question to a different social group, I’m curious about those answers as well.

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Linkspam: April 13th, 2018

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

Nat Titman gave a history talk titled Asexuality BC (Before Cake), and has assembled the content of that talk in a blog post.

Rowan responded to our QotW with some thoughts on how you know when you want to be in a relationship.

Demisexual and Proud wrote two pieces about virginity.

Ace Community Activity

There will be a panel on Ace/Aro Atheists for OrbitCon.

Calls for Participants/Submissions

The Asexual journal has a call for general submissions (for things that don’t fit the themes of any of their other calls for submissions).

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