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Ace Community Activity
The Autumn 2018 issue of AVENues is out.
Source: Pollner, F. (1973). Lesbian dynamics. Off Our Backs, 3(6), 7-7. Retrieved from http://www.jstor.org/stable/25783532
Recently, the above photo, dated to 1973, was dug up by some fine folks on tumblr. The photo comes from an event called “Lesbian/Feminist Dialogue” at Barnard College. The article accompanying it also refers to a workshop about asexuality, and an asexual manifesto distributed by the New York Radical Feminists:
How do you feel watching kissing or sex on TV?
I was watching a TV show the other day when a character walked into a bar and grabbed a girl and kissed her really deeply and I do not relate to this at all.
I just… I can’t understand what the appeal is. I don’t actually mind kissing that much but when I see kissing like that it just seems super alien.
Sex scenes can go either way. Either they just feel weird and supercilious or I am fascinated by the logistics of them.
How do things like this make you feel?
Would you ever consider being in a long distance relationship?
I’m used to long distance relationships but I want my next partner to be local. My furthest ex lives eight hours away by car. The ex I dated the longest moved an hour away after we’d been dating for a year. It’s been very rare that I date people who live under twenty minutes away and I forget this is actually the norm for many people.
Lately I ask online prospective dates how far away they live from me within the first few messages. If it’s not under thirty minutes I thank them for chatting and say it doesn’t work for me. My method works because even though I am very discerning, I usually date allo people and have a lot of options. I know how hard it is to meet local aces and I wonder if people who only date other aces or want a qpr would be more open to long distance out of practicality.
Would you/have you talked to the media about asexuality?
I would be quite happy to share my own experiences of being asexual, and my understanding of the variety of asexual experiences, but I realise that not everyone would, and I’m curious the reasons others might not.
Are you uncomfortable because it’s a personal topic? Are you worried it will end up misrepresented? Any and all thoughts welcome.