Linkspam: June 22nd, 2018

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

Daria wrote about the history of dandies, social purity activists, and spinsters.

Lijavi wrote about navigating fandom as an asexual.

Baylee created a brief timeline of asexual history (Italian language).

Ace Community Activity

The Ace Community Survey has released some infographics and interactive visualizations from their 2016 survey.

There will be an Asexuality Conference held in London July 8.

Sennkestra looked at the data on asexuality from the ACHA-NCHA.

News & Outreach

Ace, aromantic, heteroromantic, homoromantic and biromantic have all been added to the Oxford English Dictionary.

Calls for Participants/Submissions

Applications are open for The AroAce Zine.

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We Don’t Know if Asexuals Do or Don’t Want to Have Sex Because They Are All Queer Cats

So many people have told me “I could never date an asexual person because they don’t want sex” I’ve lost count. I often hear or see both asexual and allosexual people say aces don’t want to have sex and/or they don’t have sex. In this post I’ll discuss how this common narrative is both inaccurate and problematic. It wouldn’t be any better to start saying aces do have sex. Like in the term queer and the famous Schrödinger’s cat thought experiment, there’s a lot of lovely confusing middle ground and I think it is so much more inclusive.

Content warning: this post contains discussion of sex, invalidating asexual identity, hypothetical animal experimentation, and mentions bdsm/kink.

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Question of the Week: June 19th, 2018

Has anyone known or guessed you were ace before you told them?

I think some of my family members weren’t surprised because growing up and into my teens I was very uncomfortable and averse to talking about sex in any way. The ick factor stuck with me for a while (and still returns regularly). Friends and dates never have any idea until I disclose.

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Question of the Week: June 11th, 2018.

How do you feel about pride celebrations?

I’ve always been somewhat indifferent to pride marches.  I’ve gone to sit in the audience to see what it’s all about, and I’ve got to admit I totally felt all teary and happy when there were ace people, but I’ve never felt the desire to be in one, and I don’t think I’d really go back either.

Have you been to or in a pride celebration?  What did you get out of it?

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Linkspam: June 8th, 2018

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

Alex Gabriel talked about being queer and aro ace (audio and transcript available).

Ace Community Activity

ACES Scholarship Foundation (which runs the Ace Scholarship) has a new website.

Calls for Participants/Submissions

If you’re interested in speaking to the media or getting speaker requests, you could join the AVEN Media and Speaker Team.

Today is the last day to apply to be a contributor to The Asexual Agenda.

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Question of the Week: June 5th, 2018.

How have medical professionals or therapists handled your being ace?

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Carnival of Aces: Nuance & Complexity

The Carnival of Aces for May has been posted on Prismatic Entanglements.  The theme was “Nuance & Complexity“.  Please take a look!

The next Carnival of Aces is being hosted by Dating While Ace.  The theme for June is “Demisexuals/Greyasexuals”.  Get your submissions in before the end of the month!

Note that the Carnival of Aces is hosted by volunteers.  If you would like to volunteer, please see the masterpost for instructions.

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