Category Archives: Sexual normativity

“That Stinking Feeling”: An Ace Analysis

Posted on January 9, 2023 by Siggy

The process of experiencing sexual attraction is more than just a feeling. You start with a feeling, yes, but then there’s the matter of matching your feelings to the words based on cultural knowledge, cobbled together from a variety of … Continue reading →

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The sexual recession: An ace perspective

Posted on March 10, 2021 by Siggy

I’ve written many articles for various blogs, and there are a few that I published elsewhere that I wish I had also published on The Asexual Agenda. I’m going to slowly repost these here.  This article was published in 2018, … Continue reading →

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Sexual violence in two asexual short films

Posted on April 11, 2020 by Siggy

cn: Discussion of sexual violence, particularly coercion Recently, we saw the release of the asexual short film, It’s Not You, It’s Not Me (cn: sex and sexual coercion), about an allo-ace couple. Judging by the response on AVEN, reception from … Continue reading →

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A Spooky Reflection on Amatonormativity

Posted on October 28, 2018 by triplealens

With Halloween approaching, I find myself reflecting not just on the traditional horrors of the season but also that of amatonormativity. As a teenager, my best friend and I loved watching horror movies and, perhaps even more, we loved writing … Continue reading →

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Take it from a sex-favorable ace: you don’t need to have sex

Posted on July 9, 2018 by Siggy

cn: sexual violence “Competing issues” Over the last decade, online ace communities awoke to the fact that some aces can have and enjoy sex. The term “sex-favorable” was coined in 2013 to describe aces who are willing to have sex.  … Continue reading →

Posted in Articles, asexual politics, sex-favorable, Sexual normativity | 14 Comments

Keep Your Acephobia Out of #MeToo Conversations, Jaclyn Friedman

Posted on April 5, 2018 by Elizabeth

Ace readers, prepare to cringe. Consider this a blanket trigger warning for the rest of this post and most of the links. To my fellow ace survivors, I hope you are taking care of yourselves, and please don’t feel that … Continue reading →

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Autochorissexualism and Sex-Favorable Asexuality

Posted on July 16, 2016 by Talia

I have a lot of feelings about the word autochorissexualism. Coined by academic Anthony F. Bogaert in 2012 to refer to a “paraphilia that is consistent with a lack of subjective sexual attraction for others and involves a ‘disconnect’ between … Continue reading →

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Book Review: Rachel Hills, The Sex Myth

Posted on May 22, 2016 by Jo

There aren’t many books out there that are a) about sex and sexuality, and b) ace-friendly. So when I first came across Australian journalist Rachel Hill’s book The Sex Myth: The Gap Between Our Fantasies and Reality last year, I … Continue reading →

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What is normal: An analytic approach

Posted on February 11, 2016 by Siggy

In an earlier post, I touched on a particular problem: not only do I not conform to what is “normal”, it is far from clear what “normal” is, or if “normal” even exists. I think this is particularly a problem … Continue reading →

Posted in Articles, asexual identity, Sexual normativity | 4 Comments

Asexuality and the Relationship Escalator

Posted on January 31, 2016 by Jo

Written for the January 2016 Carnival of Aces, on the theme of ‘relationship stages.’ One of the concepts that I often use or reference when writing about asexuality and relationships is the relationship escalator. It’s a concept that I’ve mainly … Continue reading →

Posted in aromanticism, Articles, Modeling, Relationships, romantic orientation, Sexual normativity | Tagged , | 8 Comments