Category Archives: romantic orientation

Journal Club: What does Orientation Orient?

Posted on October 22, 2021 by Siggy

This month, the ace journal club discussed “What does Sexual orientation Orient? A Biobehavioral Model Distinguishing Romantic Love and Sexual Desire” by Lisa M. Diamond (2003). https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2F0033-295X.110.1.173 (Requires journal access) The journal club meets once a month on Discord, using … Continue reading →

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Soulmates and uncertainty in “Cupido”

Posted on August 14, 2021 by Siggy

Long-time readers may remember a time when I talked about a lot of webcomics, and occasionally made recommendations. While I haven’t searched for new webcomics lately, I still keep up with old webcomics for years on end, as long as … Continue reading →

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The allo aro intersection matters

Posted on September 24, 2020 by Siggy

Last month, there was an incident where a prominent ace blogger very publicly questioned whether “allo aro” should be seen as an empowering label. This caused a furor among aro bloggers, and even the author deleted the post because they … Continue reading →

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The split attraction model does not harm questioning youth

Posted on August 10, 2020 by Siggy

This article is part of a series in which I address criticisms of the Split Attraction Model (or SAM). See the masterpost for my reasons writing this series, and a brief discussion of my issues with the phrase “split attraction … Continue reading →

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Criticisms of the split attraction model

Posted on August 8, 2020 by Siggy

The Split Attraction Model, or SAM, refers to the framework in which people describe themselves as having two (or more) orientations, such as “homoromantic asexual” or “bisexual aromantic”. I do not like the phrase “split attraction model” for reasons I … Continue reading →

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Journal Club: Antonsen 2020, “Ace and Aro”

Posted on July 27, 2020 by Siggy

After a 7-year hiatus, I revived the ace journal club. I invited a few local people, and we discussed the following paper: Antonsen, A. N., Zdaniuk, B., Yule, M., Brotto, L. A. (2020). Ace and Aro: Understanding Differences in Romantic … Continue reading →

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græ tells painfully familiar stories

Posted on May 23, 2020 by Siggy

Content Warnings: The lyrics of græ include many references to suicide. One song (“Cut Me”) is directly about self-harm. Another (“Two dogs”) describes in graphical detail the traumatic memory of the deaths of two dogs. The cover contains mild nudity. … Continue reading →

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How not to talk about aromanticism

Posted on February 20, 2020 by Siggy

It’s Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week! It’s a week to send all your positivity and affirmation towards aromantic spectrum people. But I’m not much for positivity, so instead I’m going to take a critical look at an article I saw last … Continue reading →

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In which I get married

Posted on January 4, 2020 by Siggy

Part 1: In which I have a cough I graduated a couple years ago. I wrote a dissertation about time-resolved experiments on high-temperature superconductors. I am done with physics. I am switching careers. Throughout my PhD, I suffered from long-lived … Continue reading →

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Those magic words, “I love you”

Posted on December 14, 2019 by Siggy

This article was written for the Carnival of Aros, this month themed on “Love”. There’s a scene in the movie Scott Pilgrim vs the World where Knives says to Scott, “I’m… I’m in… LOVE”. The word “LOVE” gets spelled out … Continue reading →

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