Category Archives: Relationships

In which I get married

Posted on January 4, 2020 by

Part 1: In which I have a cough I graduated a couple years ago. I wrote a dissertation about time-resolved experiments on high-temperature superconductors. I am done with physics. I am switching careers. Throughout my PhD, I suffered from long-lived … Continue reading →

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When unimportant relationships are important

Posted on May 20, 2019 by

Recently, I wrote about my experience not forming close friendships. That’s not strictly speaking true–sometimes I do form some close friendships, but I tend to be uncommitted to them, and I often value friend networks over individual friendships. Now I’d … Continue reading →

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I don’t make close friends

Posted on May 13, 2019 by

What is a friend? In ace communities, most of the time when we’re talking about friendships, it’s in order to differentiate it from other kinds of relationships, such as romantic or queerplatonic relationships. Of course, this puts a strong emphasis … Continue reading →

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I’m not enthusiastic about enthusiastic consent

Posted on March 5, 2019 by

This is an article I’m cross-posting from my own blog.  I wrote it with allo audiences in mind, but decided it’s good here too. In my guide to sexual violence terminology, I mention that “enthusiastic consent” is an unpopular model … Continue reading →

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Being grayromantic and not talking about it

Posted on February 14, 2019 by

This was written for this month’s blogging carnival on the theme of “The relationship between the aro and ace communities“.  Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week is also next week. Some time last year, I mentioned offhand to my then-fiance that I … Continue reading →

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Once You Get What You Want…

Posted on September 23, 2018 by

One reason I have taken an active role in the asexual community is because I want asexuality to “go mainstream.” That is, not only would asexuality have the same visibility as other orientations but also letting people of all orientations … Continue reading →

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Building a Mosaic from a Shattered Future

Posted on April 30, 2018 by

This post is for the April 2018 Carnival of Aces (“All the birds but us…”). Cross-posted to Prismatic Entanglements. Content Note: contains a brief mention of sexual assault, and discussion of the impact of trauma on relationships.

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