Category Archives: Relationships

Review: Ace Date

Ace Date is a 12 minute short comedy film by Kali Thomas. I was provided with a review copy back in July 2022, and wrote this review at the time, but delayed publication because I wasn’t sure where it was … Continue reading

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Journal Club: The investment model in asexual relationships

This month, the ace journal club discussed “A test of the investment model among asexual individuals: The moderating role of attachment orientation” by Brozowski et al. (2022). (publicly accessible) The journal club meets once a month on Discord, using … Continue reading

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On (my own) excessive PDA

This is a submission to the Carnival of Aces, whose theme is “Second Chance at any Past Topic“. This may be considered a response to “Touch, Sensuality, and Non-sexual Intimacy” or “Kissing, Handholding, Bed-sharing, etc.“. I have a confession: I … Continue reading

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In which I get married

Part 1: In which I have a cough I graduated a couple years ago. I wrote a dissertation about time-resolved experiments on high-temperature superconductors. I am done with physics. I am switching careers. Throughout my PhD, I suffered from long-lived … Continue reading

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When unimportant relationships are important

Recently, I wrote about my experience not forming close friendships. That’s not strictly speaking true–sometimes I do form some close friendships, but I tend to be uncommitted to them, and I often value friend networks over individual friendships. Now I’d … Continue reading

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I don’t make close friends

What is a friend? In ace communities, most of the time when we’re talking about friendships, it’s in order to differentiate it from other kinds of relationships, such as romantic or queerplatonic relationships. Of course, this puts a strong emphasis … Continue reading

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I’m not enthusiastic about enthusiastic consent

This is an article I’m cross-posting from my own blog.  I wrote it with allo audiences in mind, but decided it’s good here too. In my guide to sexual violence terminology, I mention that “enthusiastic consent” is an unpopular model … Continue reading

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Being grayromantic and not talking about it

This was written for this month’s blogging carnival on the theme of “The relationship between the aro and ace communities“.  Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week is also next week. Some time last year, I mentioned offhand to my then-fiance that I … Continue reading

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Once You Get What You Want…

One reason I have taken an active role in the asexual community is because I want asexuality to “go mainstream.” That is, not only would asexuality have the same visibility as other orientations but also letting people of all orientations … Continue reading

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Building a Mosaic from a Shattered Future

This post is for the April 2018 Carnival of Aces (“All the birds but us…”). Cross-posted to Prismatic Entanglements. Content Note: contains a brief mention of sexual assault, and discussion of the impact of trauma on relationships.

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