Category Archives: personal experience

Asexuality on the resume

I work for The Ace Community Survey. I lead a dozen volunteers in running an annual survey with 10k responses. I developed most of our codebase. Our reports attract academic attention. This kind of looks amazing on a resume. But … Continue reading

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Telling your second story

This article was written for the September Carnival of Aces, themed on “Telling our stories“. When I spoke on a panel at Creating Change in 2013, I prepared and polished 30 second speech to introduce myself and how I came … Continue reading

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The Biology Definition of Asexuality May Have More Impact on the Sexual Orientation Than We Think

For a long time I assumed there was a chasm between asexuality as a scientific term and as a sexual orientation identity; the words were separate and the gap between them unbreachable. Asexuality meant one thing in biology textbooks and … Continue reading

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I don’t make close friends

What is a friend? In ace communities, most of the time when we’re talking about friendships, it’s in order to differentiate it from other kinds of relationships, such as romantic or queerplatonic relationships. Of course, this puts a strong emphasis … Continue reading

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Aro-ish: Permanent Questioning & the Aromantic Community

This post was written for the Carnival of Aces & Aros. The Carnival of Aros is a new sister project that will be separate from the long-running Carnival of Aces, but just to kick off its first round, The Ace … Continue reading

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A Spooky Reflection on Amatonormativity

With Halloween approaching, I find myself reflecting not just on the traditional horrors of the season but also that of amatonormativity. As a teenager, my best friend and I loved watching horror movies and, perhaps even more, we loved writing … Continue reading

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Coming out in ten vignettes

Content notes: discussion of bad coming out experiences including being outed and harassment 1. The first time someone comes out to me, I’m 16.  We’re talking about…I honestly don’t remember.  He says, “I think I might be bisexual,” and I have … Continue reading

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