Category Archives: personal experience

Being Bi/Ace, Part Two: Aesthetic Attraction and the Visual-Aural Gender Split

This post is for the May 2018 Carnival of Aces on “Nuance & Complexity,” which I am hosting. Please check it out and consider submitting! Cross-posted to Prismatic Entanglements. Last time I talked about how there’s a lot of extra scrutiny about … Continue reading

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Being Bi/Ace, Part One: Scrutiny About Attraction and the Kinsey Scale

This post is for the May 2018 Carnival of Aces on “Nuance & Complexity,” which I am hosting. Please check it out and consider submitting! Cross-posted to Prismatic Entanglements. I have some frustrations with the way that attraction is discussed … Continue reading

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Building a Mosaic from a Shattered Future

This post is for the April 2018 Carnival of Aces (“All the birds but us…”). Cross-posted to Prismatic Entanglements. Content Note: contains a brief mention of sexual assault, and discussion of the impact of trauma on relationships.

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To build an unimaginable future (or, Queenie is way too jazzed about queer futurity)

This post was written for the April 2018 Carnival of Aces on “All the birds but us…”  In typical Queenie fashion, I’m getting this in at the last possible second, but if you can type at supersonic speeds, consider writing a … Continue reading

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Interacting with gay coming out stories as an ace

We’ve talked a lot about what it’s like to come out as ace, and we’ve also talked about how this is represented in ace fiction. But if you look for coming out stories, most of them aren’t about aces, they’re … Continue reading

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Question of the Week: January 16th, 2018.

Do you participate in fandom such as reading or writing fanfiction? According to Centrumlumina’s amazing survey of Archive of our Own* users from 2013  11.4% of respondents identify as asexual, 7.6% as demisexual, and 6.1% as gray-asexual (but people could … Continue reading

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Question of the Week: November 28th, 2017.

How do you feel about secrets? We’ve talked a little before about how for some people their asexuality is a secret, but the spate of recent sexual allegations of famous media personalities has me thinking more generally about the kind … Continue reading

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