Category Archives: Modeling

To build an unimaginable future (or, Queenie is way too jazzed about queer futurity)

Posted on April 30, 2018 by

This post was written for the April 2018 Carnival of Aces on “All the birds but us…”  In typical Queenie fashion, I’m getting this in at the last possible second, but if you can type at supersonic speeds, consider writing a … Continue reading →

Posted in Articles, LGBT, Modeling, personal experience | 14 Comments

Asexuality and the Relationship Escalator

Posted on January 31, 2016 by

Written for the January 2016 Carnival of Aces, on the theme of ‘relationship stages.’ One of the concepts that I often use or reference when writing about asexuality and relationships is the relationship escalator. It’s a concept that I’ve mainly … Continue reading →

Posted in aromanticism, Articles, Modeling, Relationships, romantic orientation, Sexual normativity | Tagged , | 8 Comments

The Five Factor Model of Relationships

Posted on May 30, 2015 by

This post was written for the May 2015 Carnival of Aces, which is on the topic of Identity, Labels, and Models.  I think I went in a bit of a different direction than most of the other submissions, but hopefully … Continue reading →

Posted in Articles, Modeling, Relationships | 26 Comments

Ace label culture

Posted on April 13, 2015 by

When people talk about Tumblr Social Justice Warriors (SJWs), a significant fraction of what they’re talking about is the ace community. You may not think of yourself as an SJW, but you are, whether you are or not. It doesn’t … Continue reading →

Posted in Articles, asexual identity, Language, Modeling | 26 Comments

(Un)detachable Sexualities: A Hypothesis

Posted on April 12, 2014 by

In Queenie’s last post on why asexual people aren’t just like everyone else, minus the sexual attraction, one of the points she made was that it suggests that our sexualities are detachable parts of our identities. Queenie writes: I cannot … Continue reading →

Posted in asexual identity, Modeling, Sexual normativity | 15 Comments

A jaded look at sexual attraction

Posted on March 17, 2014 by

When I first discovered asexuality, I spent a lot of time worrying about what exactly “sexual attraction” is, and whether it was something I felt. Now I’m an ancient and cranky old man (in internet years), and I practically scoff … Continue reading →

Posted in Modeling | 21 Comments

Fixed and Fluid Identities (from an ace perspective)

Posted on October 4, 2013 by

This post is cross-posted here from my own blog, A Life Unexamined. One of the things that interests me about (a)sexual identity and sexual orientation is the models we use to talk about and conceptualise them. I’ve seen two main … Continue reading →

Posted in activism, asexual politics, Demisexual, Gray-A, LGBT, Modeling | 3 Comments