Category Archives: Language

Celibacy, and its use by asexuals

This post is being cross-posted to my personal blog, A Trivial Knot, and is written for a general audience. “Asexuality is not the same as celibacy” is a common line in introductory explanations of asexuality, but as I discussed in … Continue reading

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My beetle is an elephant

Sciatrix once created an influential metaphor for attraction: it’s like everyone has an invisible elephant that only they can see.  These invisible elephants are apparently very important in society, but hardly anyone can be bothered to describe them because it’s … Continue reading

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Ambiguity is ordinary

This is part 2 of a short series advocating for a more ambiguous definition of asexuality.  Here’s part 1. In the comments of the part 1, I was happy to see people take a variety of positions on the definition … Continue reading

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Ambiguity and Specificity

Asexuality is most frequently defined as “someone who does not experience sexual attraction,” because that’s what it says on the front page of AVEN, the website that dominated the asexual community for a decade. But there is also a long … Continue reading

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Question of the Week: July 21st, 2015

What have other people said or done that makes you feel comfortable as an ace person? If you don’t have any examples from personal experience, what would you want to hear?

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Ace label culture

When people talk about Tumblr Social Justice Warriors (SJWs), a significant fraction of what they’re talking about is the ace community. You may not think of yourself as an SJW, but you are, whether you are or not. It doesn’t … Continue reading

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In defense of “sex-favorable”

Some time last year, the term “sex-favorable” came into use for asexuals who might be willing to have sex in at least some situations. There were also several people who said the term had a few problems, and advocated against … Continue reading

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How identity is like a democracy

Why do the kids these days have so many words and identity labels? That’s the question we ask year after year.  But isn’t that funny?  If it’s the same thing year after year, why does it seem like kids these … Continue reading

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Sex-positivity is a muddle

Several weeks ago, I was surprised to see the following quote, in an otherwise good post: Many asexuals are ‘sex positive’ and therefore more than willing to have sex… Whaaaaaaat?  Is that what “sex positive” means to the kids these … Continue reading

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Asexuality in Japan: a conversation with harris-hijiri

This interview is part of our international voices series.  If you’d be interested in contributing, check out our call for submissions and interviews. I recently had the opportunity to chat with harris-hijiri.  harris-hijiri is a native of Japan, and has … Continue reading

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