Category Archives: Language

6 terms that have been redefined by aces

From the very beginning, ace communities have created their own words to describe and talk about our experiences. In some cases, we take previously existing words, and use them in a way that effectively redefines them. This can occasionally lead … Continue reading

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Being vs Identifying as

This article is being cross-posted to my blog, A Trivial Knot. In modern philosophy, there is a thing called a performative speech act. That’s when you do things by saying things. For example if I say, “I apologize,” it is … Continue reading

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Autochorissexualism and Sex-Favorable Asexuality

I have a lot of feelings about the word autochorissexualism. Coined by academic Anthony F. Bogaert in 2012 to refer to a “paraphilia that is consistent with a lack of subjective sexual attraction for others and involves a ‘disconnect’ between … Continue reading

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Celibacy, and its use by asexuals

This post is being cross-posted to my personal blog, A Trivial Knot, and is written for a general audience. “Asexuality is not the same as celibacy” is a common line in introductory explanations of asexuality, but as I discussed in … Continue reading

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My beetle is an elephant

Sciatrix once created an influential metaphor for attraction: it’s like everyone has an invisible elephant that only they can see.  These invisible elephants are apparently very important in society, but hardly anyone can be bothered to describe them because it’s … Continue reading

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Ambiguity is ordinary

This is part 2 of a short series advocating for a more ambiguous definition of asexuality.  Here’s part 1. In the comments of the part 1, I was happy to see people take a variety of positions on the definition … Continue reading

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Ambiguity and Specificity

Asexuality is most frequently defined as “someone who does not experience sexual attraction,” because that’s what it says on the front page of AVEN, the website that dominated the asexual community for a decade. But there is also a long … Continue reading

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