Category Archives: Gray-A

Gray Asexuality in mainstream media

As regular readers know, I use Google Alerts to keep tabs on asexuality in mainstream (primarily news) media. In this article, I will survey the alerts for any mention of gray-asexuality, and discuss how it’s presented. This was directly inspired … Continue reading

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Journal Club: Rethinking Gray-Asexuality

This month, the ace journal club discussed “A Rethinking of Gray Asexuality: What do we Learn from an Undefinable Identity”, by Jason Gurevitch (2019). https://digitalcommons.colby.edu/honorstheses/967/ (freely available) The journal club meets once a month on Discord, using text or voice … Continue reading

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Journal Club: “Sex” and the Ace Spectrum

This month, the ace journal club discussed “‘Sex’ and the Ace Spectrum: Definitions of Sex, Behavioral Histories, and Future Interest for Individuals Who Identify as Asexual, Graysexual, or Demisexual” by Jessica J. Hille, Megan K. Simmons, & Stephanie A. Sanders … Continue reading

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Restored Carnival of Aces: “Demisexuals/Greysexuals”

The Carnival of Aces has been around for many years, and some of the blogs that have hosted carnivals have gone defunct.  In some cases, I find the carnivals archived on the Internet Archive’s Wayback Machine, and I mirror them … Continue reading

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Disidentification with asexuality is essential

In my personal life, I do not see it as a goal to be asexual, nor be on the asexual spectrum. Rather, these labels are just tools to better understand what I really want, or what I might want. After … Continue reading

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Umbrella erosion

In Coyote’s timeline of “quoiromantic”, there’s a certain conflict that persisted for many years. Cor, who coined “quoiromantic”, has repeatedly asserted a broad meaning, as in “What even is romantic orientation?” Nonetheless, there has been a persistent misconception that it … Continue reading

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Being grayromantic and not talking about it

This was written for this month’s blogging carnival on the theme of “The relationship between the aro and ace communities“.  Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week is also next week. Some time last year, I mentioned offhand to my then-fiance that I … Continue reading

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Interacting with gay coming out stories as an ace

We’ve talked a lot about what it’s like to come out as ace, and we’ve also talked about how this is represented in ace fiction. But if you look for coming out stories, most of them aren’t about aces, they’re … Continue reading

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Being vs Identifying as

This article is being cross-posted to my blog, A Trivial Knot. In modern philosophy, there is a thing called a performative speech act. That’s when you do things by saying things. For example if I say, “I apologize,” it is … Continue reading

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The gathering at the gates

This is the third and final part of a short series advocating for a more ambiguous definition of asexuality.  See part 1 and part 2. Start with a metaphor.  You’re trying to get into a party.  You’ve heard mixed things … Continue reading

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