Category Archives: Demisexual

Disidentification with asexuality is essential

In my personal life, I do not see it as a goal to be asexual, nor be on the asexual spectrum. Rather, these labels are just tools to better understand what I really want, or what I might want. After … Continue reading

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Labels must be allowed to die

On Glossaries Have you ever seen one of those asexual or aromantic glossaries?  If not, I have many examples in the footnotes!1  These glossaries often serve as repositories for all the identity terms that one person or another has advocated … Continue reading

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Okcupid Questions Asexual People Might Want to Answer, an Ace Dating Resource

Okcupid is my favourite dating site or app because of its questions feature. Okcupid questions let you state your preferences and deal breakers and figure out how a potential date feels about the same questions before you’ve ever even talked … Continue reading

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Ambiguous and heading nowhere

“Gray-A” was coined to describe the fuzzy space between asexual and non-asexual.  Or as I’ve put it, it describes people who find asexuality to be useful to understand their personal experiences, but who don’t fit the technical definition. “Demisexual”, by … Continue reading

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What It Means To Be Ace: Building community on shared experience

Special thanks go to my partner J for inspiring this post, and putting into neat words what I’ve been thinking about for a while. I am not much of a tumblr user, but when I occasionally browse through the things … Continue reading

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Fixed and Fluid Identities (from an ace perspective)

This post is cross-posted here from my own blog, A Life Unexamined. One of the things that interests me about (a)sexual identity and sexual orientation is the models we use to talk about and conceptualise them. I’ve seen two main … Continue reading

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What happens if all demisexual people are wrong

This is a guest post written by SlightlyMetaphysical of Asexual Curiosities. Following on from Swank Ivy’s excellent tumblr post, I just wanted to develop and draw out some of the logic in her arguments. One of the common reactions to … Continue reading

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Visualizing demisexuality

Apparently some people are still having trouble grasping the concept of demisexuality as a sexual orientation.  I was trying to come up with a way to explain how demisexuality could be a sexual orientation, when it suddenly struck me!  Figures! … Continue reading

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