Category Archives: Community

IRL Ace Meetups… Online

Posted on March 17, 2020 by

My whole area just ordered everyone to shelter in place, to slow the spread of COVID-19.  No matter where you live, you could find yourself in a similar situation soon, if you’re not there already. Naturally, IRL ace meetups will … Continue reading →

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Aro complaints about ace communities

Posted on August 29, 2019 by

When I started keeping tabs on the aro community on Tumblr, and I saw many complaints about ace communities.  I think it’s important that ace communities are made aware of these complaints, so I offered to publicize any complaints that … Continue reading →

Posted in aromanticism, Articles, asexual politics, Community, Guest post | 24 Comments

Queer spaces don’t work like that

Posted on August 11, 2019 by

I’d like to continue my series on “The Discourse”, that big flame war that occurs on Tumblr regarding the inclusion of aces in LGBTQ spaces. I wish to strip away euphemism, so I’m calling it “The Ace Flame War” rather … Continue reading →

Posted in Articles, asexual politics, Community, LGBT | Tagged | 16 Comments

Ace exclusionists and gender

Posted on March 20, 2019 by

Recently, I expressed a desire to talk about “The Discourse”, that big flame war that occurs on Tumblr regarding the inclusion of aces in LGBT spaces. I wish to strip away euphemism, so I’m going to switch to calling it … Continue reading →

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Let’s use this Aro/Ace bridge

Posted on March 11, 2019 by

As you know, this February was the very first month of the Carnival of Aros, and it started with a joint event with the Carnival of Aces on the theme of “The relationship between the aro and ace communities“.  The … Continue reading →

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The Ace Discourse, viewed from afar

Posted on January 15, 2019 by

One of the reasons I think The Asexual Agenda has declined in relevance, is that we never really addressed The Discourse. By “The Discourse” I refer to the ongoing flame war that has consumed ace communities on Tumblr. To learn … Continue reading →

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We Don’t Know if Asexuals Do or Don’t Want to Have Sex Because They Are All Queer Cats

Posted on June 20, 2018 by

So many people have told me “I could never date an asexual person because they don’t want sex” I’ve lost count. I often hear or see both asexual and allosexual people say aces don’t want to have sex and/or they … Continue reading →

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Building a Mosaic from a Shattered Future

Posted on April 30, 2018 by

This post is for the April 2018 Carnival of Aces (“All the birds but us…”). Cross-posted to Prismatic Entanglements. Content Note: contains a brief mention of sexual assault, and discussion of the impact of trauma on relationships.

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The Ace Flag: A History and Celebration

Posted on February 21, 2018 by

The ace flag, along with its purple/white/gray/black color scheme, has been the most successful ace symbol in all of history. This is worth celebrating! Unfortunately there are no longer many people around who remember how we got the flag in … Continue reading →

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The Implausibility of Offline Meetups, and Idle Dreams for the Future

Posted on July 28, 2017 by

This post is for the July 2017 Carnival of Aces, the topic of which is “Ace-ing it up offline.” It has been cross-posted to Prismatic Entanglements. I live in an area with very little (visible) ace presence. Although I have … Continue reading →

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