Category Archives: asexual politics

Asexuality as a hard limit (or: the cat is dead)

Content warnings: discussion of abuse (with a few examples given, including one having to do with food restriction) and boundary violation, discussion of anti-sex-averse sentiment, mention of sexual violence, animal death in the context of a metaphor In the past few … Continue reading

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Take it from a sex-favorable ace: you don’t need to have sex

cn: sexual violence “Competing issues” Over the last decade, online ace communities awoke to the fact that some aces can have and enjoy sex. The term “sex-favorable” was coined in 2013 to describe aces who are willing to have sex.  … Continue reading

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We Don’t Know if Asexuals Do or Don’t Want to Have Sex Because They Are All Queer Cats

So many people have told me “I could never date an asexual person because they don’t want sex” I’ve lost count. I often hear or see both asexual and allosexual people say aces don’t want to have sex and/or they … Continue reading

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Ace Tropes: Ace Police

This is a part of the series on ace tropes in fiction.  It was written by Siggy, but Sara K. suggested the idea and provided some examples. Marcella shook her head. “Anything sexual makes you not an Ace. Touching yourself … Continue reading

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On burning out (and phoenixes)

This post was written for the February 2017 Carnival of Aces on the topic of Resistance, Activism, and Self-Care. Content warnings: discussion of anti-ace hostility and familial rejection, mention of sexual violence It’s hard for me to pinpoint the moment … Continue reading

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Autochorissexualism and Sex-Favorable Asexuality

I have a lot of feelings about the word autochorissexualism. Coined by academic Anthony F. Bogaert in 2012 to refer to a “paraphilia that is consistent with a lack of subjective sexual attraction for others and involves a ‘disconnect’ between … Continue reading

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Should queer (and ace) people be part of workplace diversity policies?

Since starting full-time work, I have been thinking a lot about the intersection of queerness/asexuality and the workplace. In my last post I talked more specifically about coming out as ace at work and what that might entail. More recently, … Continue reading

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