Category Archives: asexual identity

Question of the Week: January 16th, 2018.

Do you participate in fandom such as reading or writing fanfiction? According to Centrumlumina’s amazing survey of Archive of our Own* users from 2013  11.4% of respondents identify as asexual, 7.6% as demisexual, and 6.1% as gray-asexual (but people could … Continue reading

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Being vs Identifying as

This article is being cross-posted to my blog, A Trivial Knot. In modern philosophy, there is a thing called a performative speech act. That’s when you do things by saying things. For example if I say, “I apologize,” it is … Continue reading

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Question of the Week: October 31st, 2017

If you had unlimited budget, time, and creativity what would you dress up as for Halloween? I love the idea of costumes, but I’m terrible at actually putting in the time and effort to make them.  I am a massive … Continue reading

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Question of the Week: October 24th, 2017

Was questioning or uncertainty ever a big part of your identity?  As soon as I read the word asexual I said “that’s me” and moved on. In the almost ten years since other people have questioned if I’m asexual, but … Continue reading

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Labels Versus Identities: Are We Boxed In?

I want to breach a question with all of you. I was riding backseat on a road trip recently, resting my eyes and combating moderate carsickness, when I overheard two friends carrying on a discussion up front. The driver is … Continue reading

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Ace in the Workspace: Q&A

Sharing my story about being ace in my current workplace, I didn’t anticipate the awesome discussion to follow in the comments section, and  from friends’ reactions and responses. The level of interest made me realize what should have been obvious: … Continue reading

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Question of the Week: May 9th, 2017.

When someone tells you they’re ace do you assume they’re out/open about it or closeted if they don’t give you any more information? Do you make a point of telling people if being ace is a private part of your … Continue reading

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Models of Pride: How Can We Teach Asexuality to Children?

For the weekend of Asexual Awareness Week, I volunteered at an event in Los Angeles called Models of Pride. Students and kids of all ages, their parents and volunteers came to the conference to learn more about the LGBTQ* community. … Continue reading

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My Islam is Queer

This post is for the May Carnival of Aces. I first became fascinated by Islam in the summer of 1994. I remember spending many afternoons in the university bookstore, lurking by the Religion shelves, at one point poring over English … Continue reading

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Narratives of Aromanticism (vs personal experience)

A while ago, I wrote a post on my personal blog about my experience of being an aromantic asexual in a relationship. As various people in the ace community have noted at various times (for instance here, here and here) … Continue reading

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