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Take it from a sex-favorable ace: you don’t need to have sex

cn: sexual violence “Competing issues” Over the last decade, online ace communities awoke to the fact that some aces can have and enjoy sex. The term “sex-favorable” was coined in 2013 to describe aces who are willing to have sex.  … Continue reading

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Welcome to the new contributors!

I’m excited to announce that we have two new contributors!  I look forward to the new perspectives and writing they will bring to the site. Tamara is a feminist, mixed race, let’s-just-call-it-queer asexual working on her Communication B.A. and attempting … Continue reading

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We Don’t Know if Asexuals Do or Don’t Want to Have Sex Because They Are All Queer Cats

So many people have told me “I could never date an asexual person because they don’t want sex” I’ve lost count. I often hear or see both asexual and allosexual people say aces don’t want to have sex and/or they … Continue reading

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Attraction and emotional granularity

This article was written for the Carnival of Aces themed on “Nuance & Complexity“. It is being cross-posted to my other blog, A Trivial Knot. Asexuality is chiefly about noticing a distinction between the emotions you perceive in other people, … Continue reading

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Why Are There So Many Terms – and Why I Am Finding Them Less Useful

This post is for the May 2018 Carnival of Aces on “Nuance & Complexity.” The ace community is known for making new terms to describe various nuances of being ace. One would have to be extremely dedicated to keep track … Continue reading

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Being Bi/Ace, Part Two: Aesthetic Attraction and the Visual-Aural Gender Split

This post is for the May 2018 Carnival of Aces on “Nuance & Complexity,” which I am hosting. Please check it out and consider submitting! Cross-posted to Prismatic Entanglements. Last time I talked about how there’s a lot of extra scrutiny about … Continue reading

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Being Bi/Ace, Part One: Scrutiny About Attraction and the Kinsey Scale

This post is for the May 2018 Carnival of Aces on “Nuance & Complexity,” which I am hosting. Please check it out and consider submitting! Cross-posted to Prismatic Entanglements. I have some frustrations with the way that attraction is discussed … Continue reading

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