Question of the Week: August 14th, 2018.

Would you ever consider being in a long distance relationship?

I’m used to long distance relationships but I want my next partner to be local. My furthest ex lives eight hours away by car. The ex I dated the longest moved an hour away after we’d been dating for a year. It’s been very rare that I date people who live under twenty minutes away and I forget this is actually the norm for many people.

Lately I ask online prospective dates how far away they live from me within the first few messages. If it’s not under thirty minutes I thank them for chatting and say it doesn’t work for me. My method works because even though I am very discerning, I usually date allo people and have a lot of options. I know how hard it is to meet local aces and I wonder if people who only date other aces or want a qpr would be more open to long distance out of practicality.

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Linkspam: August 10th, 2018

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

Sennkestra hypothesized that microlabels are derived from the Tumblr tagging system.

Ace Community Activity

There’s been a bunch of discussion of aromantic history over on Tumblr.

News & Outreach

Buzzfeed ran an article about asexual sexual assault survivors.

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Question of the Week: August 7th, 2018.

Would you/have you talked to the media about asexuality?

I would be quite happy to share my own experiences of being asexual, and my understanding of the variety of asexual experiences, but I realise that not everyone would, and I’m curious the reasons others might not.

Are you uncomfortable because it’s a personal topic?  Are you worried it will end up misrepresented? Any and all thoughts welcome.



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Carnival of Aces: Then and Now

The Carnival of Aces for July has been posted on WUT.  The theme was “Then and Now“.  Please take a look!

The next Carnival of Aces is being hosted by Demisexual and Proud.  The theme for August is “Stages of Coming Out”.  Get your submissions in before the end of the month!

Note that the Carnival of Aces is hosted by volunteers.  If you would like to volunteer, please see the masterpost for instructions.

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Question of the Week: July 31st, 2018.

Do you ever think or worry about one day not being ace? 

There is some discussion in the community about people who were allosexual before, are now ace, and how that is a totally valid identity. Maybe there’s not enough discussion about that kind of experience. While the original Anthony Bogaert study defined asexuality as a lifelong lack of sexual attraction, our community recognizes many more ways to be asexual. Sexuality can change and that’s completely okay.

I rarely see us talk about people who were ace before, become something else, and see both identities as valid at the time they had them. We’re understandably critical of ace being seen as just a phase, but I’m curious about people who shift out of being ace without seeing it as a mistake or misunderstanding; being ace is just an experience the person no longer has. This experience would rarely come up because these people would presumably leave the community, but what if they’re still here? I’m reminded of a few accounts I’ve read by heterosexual trans men lingering in lesbian spaces because they used to identify as a lesbian. Is there something the community could do that would benefit these previous members on the fringes?


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Linkspam: July 27th, 2018

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

People are talking about a photo from 1973, showing evidence that feminist activists had been talking about asexuality at the time.

luvtheheaven compiled television clips with asexual representation, overlaying text commenting on the problematic aspects.

demiandproud wrote about asexual identity, anthropologically speaking.

jotdancing wrote about asexual history, celibacy, and feminism.

Kitty Stryker wrote about being an asexual sex worker.

Chrysocolla Town compiled a list of services, guides and resources for ace spectrum people.

News & Outreach

It was announced that this year’s Asexual Awareness Week will be from October 21st to 27th.

The Daily Californian featured an article on aces at Pride.

Calls for Participants/Submissions

asexualresearch is looking for more mods.

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Question of the Week: July 24th, 2018.

What language would you like to learn and why?

If I had to pick one, probably sign language because I like being able to communicate non-verbally, and as well as letting me interact with the Deaf community, it could be useful if any of my family/friends use their hearing someday.

Sorry I don’t have anything ace related – just  a general getting to know you question today 🙂

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