Question of the Week: May 23rd, 2017.

Do you journal or write your thoughts down? Has it helped you work through being ace or any other parts of your life? 

I’ve journalled on and off for years and recently stumbled across Julia Cameron’s Morning Pages activity (write 3 pages in the morning, free hand, about whatever you’re thinking of). While I’ve struggled to do my morning pages every morning, trying to do them reminded me about the joy I feel using private writing and fiction to work through relationships and my feelings. I used to explore what asexuality meant to me in fanfiction and have recently gotten back into writing in general. I have a hard time coming out and saying explicitly what asexuality means to me, in my life, but through characters all my asexual thoughts slip and trickle out. What it means to be asexual comes in drips and drabs and between the margins. It’s there and it’s not. Speaking through someone else is a way to explore saying things I’d never write in a blog post, which always felt reserved for polished and accountable thoughts.

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Ace Tropes: Ace Meets Incubus

Sara K. blogs at The Notes Which Do Not Fit, and has written a number of book reviews of asexual fiction. She is continuing the ace tropes series.

Incubus: You must have been very naughty to have summoned someone like me, Human. Reveal to me your deepest, filthiest desires, and I shall grant them all with this body of mine. Ace: Sorry. I'm actually kind of asexual?? I found a spellbook in the attic and wanted to try it out. (I'm totally up for cuddling tho, now that you mention it) Incubus: WHAT?!

From the webcomic Up, Where It’s Warmer

Some cultures have stories about mythical beings which are extremely sexually attractive, and their ability to sexually seduce humans is a source of their magic power, or at least an essential quality of their magic. Examples of such magical creatures include succubi and incubi, but there are other mythological beings which loosely fit this mold (selkies, for example).

Now toss an ace character into this picture…

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Linkspam: May 19th, 2017

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

Vesper has a brief account of the discrepancy between English and Japanese asexual language.

Sara offers suggestions on how to access ace fiction.

News & Outreach

Queer Kid Stuff had an episode about asexuality.

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Ace in the Workspace: Q&A

Sharing my story about being ace in my current workplace, I didn’t anticipate the awesome discussion to follow in the comments section, and  from friends’ reactions and responses. The level of interest made me realize what should have been obvious: that there are clearly plenty more stories of others’ experiences waiting in the wings to be shared.

In the last few months, I spoke with friends and acquaintances and collected insights into how other members of the asexual community across the entire spectrum navigate multiple industries in multiple ways. Part one of this budding series focuses on ace friends I gained from my many years on many social media platforms. I owe my own asexual awareness in large part to these fellows.

I asked everyone the same questions about their histories being ace in the workspace. Here’s what they had to say:

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Question of the Week: May 16th, 2017

What interactions have you had with your parents about being aro/ace?

Mother’s Day reminds us all to be grateful for our mothers, although some people have had enough conflict with their mothers that perhaps the holiday falls flat for them.

I had positive interactions with my parents when I first told them.  There were a few heart to heart moments.  But that was a long time ago, and for the most part we don’t talk about it now.  After all, we live apart and I have my own life.  Nonetheless, I am grateful for that initial support.

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Looking for Asexual Agenda contributors

The Asexual Agenda is a blog written by ace-spectrum people, for ace-spectrum people, seeking to go beyond what we see in mainstream news. We talk about personal experiences, relationships, language, intersectionality, activism, media, and more. We also serve as a portal for the asexual blogging community.

We are now seeking new contributors!

What it involves:

Our writers have a lot of freedom to choose their own topics and frequency of blogging.  We do not impose any requirements on how often you must write.  There is a small amount of e-mail correspondence to take care of administrative details, discuss topics, and give each other constructive feedback.

You do not need experience with WordPress, as we will gladly teach you.

How to apply:

To apply, please e-mail us at asexualagenda@gmail.com by June 5th. Briefly (in ~100 words) tell us about yourself, and why you’d like to contribute. Also include a writing sample (300-1000 words) that you think could fit our blog.

What we want to see is that you are self-motivated to seek topics, can correspond by e-mail, and can write effectively.

Also, if you know anyone else who might be interested, please share this with them!

Guest posts:

Many people have asked if they can write just one thing, without making a longterm commitment.  Yes!  We are open to hosting guest posts year round. Please e-mail asexualagenda@gmail.com.

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Linkspam: May 12th, 2017

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

millenniumfae wrote a guide for asexual doms.

Swankivy wrote about asexual representation in science-fiction and fantasy.

Ace Community Activity

Ace Los Angeles is running a fundraising drive.

The May/June 2017 issue of AVENues is out.

Calls for Participants/Submissions

There’s a study on influences of social experiences and perception on psychological well-being in people on the asexual spectrum that is looking for participants.

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