The Ace Discourse, viewed from afar

One of the reasons I think The Asexual Agenda has declined in relevance, is that we never really addressed The Discourse.

By “The Discourse” I refer to the ongoing flame war that has consumed ace communities on Tumblr. To learn more about The Discourse and its history, I recommend this article on aro-soulmate-project and the links therein, all of which I found via jotdancing. The short version: The Discourse is about a group of people who are basically like TERFs, but antagonistic to ace and aro people. Precursors to The Discourse date back to 2010, but many people trace the current iteration to 2015, when it was likely sparked by The Trevor Project deciding to include ace people.

The Discourse is obviously important, from several perspectives. First, it’s important to the people who have actively been involved in the flame war, people who witness it on a regular basis, and even people who hear about it incidentally or second-hand. It’s important to all the ace communities that have been shaped by The Discourse. And finally, The Discourse is a forecast of the future. Ace activists of my generation have long speculated that after fighting ace invisibility, we might end up fighting ace antagonism. Such speculation seems much more concrete nowadays.

Some people have referred to The Asexual Agenda as a refuge from The Discourse. But if we’re a refuge, it’s only by accident. Why haven’t we talked about The Discourse?

Continue reading

Posted in Articles, asexual politics, Community | 29 Comments

Linkspam: January 11, 2019

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

Danyi wrote about being ace on Snapchat.

Coyote made a timeline of Quoiro/WTFromanticism.

Ace Community Activity

AVENues released its Winter 2019 issue, which is devoted to creative works.

News & Outreach

Qwear Fashion published a feature on several ace fashionistas.

Calls for Participants/Submissions

AVENues is now taking submissions for their next edition on the subject of “Physical Health”.

The NWSA Asexual Studies Interest Group has issued a call for proposals for the 2019 NWSA conference in San Francisco.

Posted in Linkspam | Tagged , | Leave a comment

Question of the Week: January 8th, 2019.

What’s one thing you feel like you can do to make the world a better place?

Thinking about new years resolutations got me thinking about things that I can do not to make my own life better, but to try and make things better for other people.

I feel pretty overwhelmed by my ability to see effective change in large scale issues, so I think this year I want to work on putting more effort into reaching out to people that feel isolated in my community.

Are there any things you would like to do this year to help others?

Posted in Question of the Week | 2 Comments

Carnival of Aces: Burnout

The Carnival of Aces for December has been posted on Next Step: Cake.  The theme was “Burnout“.  Please take a look!

The next Carnival of Aces is being hosted by Demi and Proud.  The theme for January is “Asexuality as a Blessing”.  Get your submissions in before the end of the month!

The Carnival of Aces is hosted by volunteers.  If you would like to volunteer, please see the masterpost for instructions.

Posted in Carnival of Aces, Linkspam | Leave a comment

Question of the week: January 1, 2019.

Do you have a New Year’s resolution? What is it? Or why not? 

I’ve never been big on New Year’s resolutions. If I want to do something I will motivate myself. Starting at the beginning of the year never resonated with me. My favourite online free yoga instructor Adriene Mishler releases 30 day yoga challenges every year starting on New Year’s though, so in a way my resolution is to get through the first 20 min of every video in January.

Posted in Question of the Week | 2 Comments

Linkspam: December 28th, 2018

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

Angela at actuallyasexual writes about the importance of recognizing many different models of categorization for sexuality.

16-littlestar-98 complains about limited options in OkCupid questionnaires.

News & Outreach

A new research paper has been published about the lives of asexual individuals outside of sexual and romantic relationships: education, occupation, religion and community [paywalled]

Calls for Participants/Submissions

Asexual Artists is holding an ace art show in Vancouver in April 2019.  The submission deadline is January 1st.

Posted in Linkspam | Tagged , | Leave a comment

Question of the Week: December 25th, 2018.

Do you like large family gatherings?

I am very lucky in that my family just do a very small christmas with my parents and two siblings.  Even the small breakfast with my parents two friends and my brothers girlfriends felt like an overwhelming number of people.

Do you like holiday parties, or are they full of people you’d rother avoid?

Posted in Question of the Week | 4 Comments