Linkspam: July 9th, 2021

On Fridays, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

Sara Youngblood Gregory wrote about navigating her relationship with her asexual partner.

Community Activity

Midwest Aces Virtual Hangout – July 10th, 1pm CST (repeats monthly)

The AVEN Board of Directors announced a decision to change the definition of “asexual” on their front page.  There will be a livestream talking about the decision on Sunday July 11th, 5 pm UTC.

The podcast Coming Out Stories featured asexual activist Rhian.

The podcast Graying Rainbows featured Julie Sondra Decker.

Book Clubs

Of the Wild – July – Art Over Chaos’ Great Ace Club

All Systems Red July 11 – New England Aces

Sea Foam and Silence – July 18 – Canon Ace & Aro Characters Discussion

Summer Bird Blue July 16 – Aces NYC

In the Ravenous DarkEnd of July – AVEN Chicago Meetups – (might be in person)

Loveless July and August – The Ace Space

Aro Blogging

The June Carnival of Aros, on “Pride and Solidarity“, has been rounded up.  The July Carnival of Aros topic is “Education“.

The Aromantics Create Pride art roundup is here.

About Siggy

Siggy is an ace activist based in the U.S. He is gay gray-A, and has a Ph.D. in physics. He has another blog where he also talks about math, philosophy, godlessness, and social criticism. His other hobbies include board games and origami.
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4 Responses to Linkspam: July 9th, 2021

  1. ettinacat says:

    That thread on AVEN was an interesting experience to read. It felt like hearing past-me invalidate current-me, over and over. I currently identify as asexual and grey-asexual interchangeably, but I used to be very invested in the distinction between grey-ace and ace. I wonder how many of those people realize that grey-ace doesn’t mean that you necessarily have any more interest in actually having sex than an asexual person does? And that the people who take “do you want to have sex?” “No, I’m asexual” as “so I have a chance?” are likely to do so regardless of what AVEN’s definition of asexuality is?

    • Siggy says:

      The thread certainly showcases a lot of that old AVEN essentialism. That’s one of the reasons we left.

      • Patience says:

        I only made it through the first page of comments before it became too uncomfortable to read. But I think one problem might be that in this case AVEN uses “asexual” as an umbrella term that also includes demisexual and grey-sexual. The commenters on the other seem to take “asexual” to a be a specific identity and that could be one reason for their resistance to the change.

        • Siggy says:

          I don’t think AVEN is using it as an umbrella term and I don’t think that has much to do with it. Both the AVEN definition, and multiple alternative definitions have all been discussed well before gray and demi identities have been around. Demi/gray identities introduce complication only insofar as people wrongly believe there needs to be a clean cut between the definitions of gray/demi and asexual. In fact, demi/gray people may experience zero sexual attraction, and asexual people may experience nonzero sexual attraction. People with the same experience can land on different labels, for various reasons.

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