Question of the Month: March 17th, 2020.

If you have one or are seeking one, what qualities do you look for in a significant other(s)?

I look for someone who is good at communicating their feelings, especially negative feelings. I really like knowing what’s going on and being able to work with someone in difficult times instead of both of us escalating conflict unnecessarily. After that I also look for someone who is accepting of me and my limits (which includes how I specifically experience asexuality, but also many qualities) and has a generally compatible lifestyle with me 🙂 I love living in a child-free home in the suburbs with lots of animal companions and plants.


About Talia

Talia is an asexual, nonbinary, vegan-feminist that drinks a lot of coffee and stays up very late playing Blizzard video games and writing fiction. They are working on a PhD in Environmental Studies where they think a lot about oppression as intersectional and impacting identities differentially. Talia has a particular fondness for asexuality, fandom, and Critical Animal Studies. Their personal blog is
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3 Responses to Question of the Month: March 17th, 2020.

  1. Jam says:

    Honesty in all things. Compassion. Mutual weirdness. Mutual disinterest in kids. Understanding of the different shape a relationship will be, particularly with regards to living arrangements, physical intimacy, etc.

  2. patience says:

    I currently have a partner and I think an important thing for me is that I wasn’t looking for one – I just happened to meet this person, that I felt a need to get to know better. We are not romantic in a narrow sense of the word, but instead have our own ways of showing affection. Obviously we care about each other, but are not the single most important person in the other’s life.
    The above points are really good as well

  3. Rachel says:

    Strong list of shared hobbies and interests. I’m awful at emotional labor, do really need people who are liw maintenance. Gotta be okay with no sex or romance. Mostly I’d look for something sedate.

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