How often do you think or talk about being ace?
Is being ace a daily topic and always on your mind? Is it the primary frame of reference for your identity? Or is it one of many ways you understand yourself? Not so important? Changing over the years?
When I first came out as ace it was a big part of how I identified. Over the years asexuality has remained important to me, but I think about it less and less. I think this is because being nonbinary feels more pressing; people gender and misgender me daily. When I’m out in the dating world, I mention I’m asexual once and what it means to me and that’s kind of it. It’ll come up now and then randomly. If people have a problem with my sexual orientation or how I experience it I dump them or move on very quickly. It no longer bothers me as much as it used to. Maybe one day it will be a big deal one day again. These things can change.