Question of the Month: August 13th, 2019.

How do you feel about physical contact or touch? 

Do you like platonic, sensual, and/or sexual physical contact with someone you trust and like? Do you prefer to only touch, only be touched, neither, or both? Does what you are okay or not okay with feel connected to your experiences with being ace or not?

About Talia

Talia is an asexual, nonbinary, vegan-feminist that drinks a lot of coffee and stays up very late playing Blizzard video games and writing fiction. They are working on a PhD in Environmental Studies where they think a lot about oppression as intersectional and impacting identities differentially. Talia has a particular fondness for asexuality, fandom, and Critical Animal Studies. Their personal blog is
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1 Response to Question of the Month: August 13th, 2019.

  1. Patience says:

    This is something I’ve been lowkey thinking about lately.
    As a general rule I don’t like straners touching me deliberately if I haven’t given permission. But with people I know well I can get really cuddly and I like that kind of physical connection.
    I was as a concert recently and we ended up somewhat huddled together and I was mostly okay with that, but then someone put a hand on my shoulder and I suddenly wanted to be anywhere but there. Also recently I was at en event at my dorm and someone put their hand on my arm and said “it’s nice that you’re here” and my gut reaction was to said “Don’t touch me!”. And just the other night another person at my domr put their hand on my knee and because I was tired and annoyed already I kinda snapped at them.
    But as mentioned I like touch if it’s with people I know and trust. It tells me that they are there even if we don’t say anything to each other. Usually it calms my down if I’m upsetAnd a hug can sometimes be an easier way to tell someone that I care about them.
    I guees you could relate it to the fact that I’m demisexual, but mostly I think that it’s two different parts of me that works together.

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