Did you know you were ace right away or did you go through a questioning period?
I’ve heard a lot of people who identify as gray-asexual describe a questioning period or time after they heard the label when they were still figuring things out. I assume this is also true for some people who identify as asexual, but I hear it less. I wonder if that’s a coincidence or that there’s something about being gray that resonates with people who are questioning.
I remember the first time I heard asexual being used as a sexual orientation I knew it referred to me. It gave words to describe experiences I knew I had but had never articulated. It changed things but also simultaneously felt like nothing had changed.