Question of the Week: February 5th, 2019.

Do you have any good experiences with health care professionals?

My therapist is really good, but even she made a fairly disparaging comment when I talked about maybe being ace. Does anyone have any good experiences with therapists or other health professionals?

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7 Responses to Question of the Week: February 5th, 2019.

  1. kaikiky says:

    My therapists and doctors have always been really accepting of my ace/aro-ness. Any time I’ve brought up being asexual, my therapists have always seemed genuinely interested in hearing more about it, and my doctors have always been very respectful about my sex repulsion and not wanting to be touched in my genital area, and no one has ever given me a strange look when I say I’ve never been sexually active. I feel like I’ve been really lucky? Because I mostly hear horror stories from aces who have had really bad experiences with professionals who were either intentionally condescending or unintentionally insensitive. But I’ve always been treated positively by my health care professionals.

  2. luvtheheaven says:

    I’ve had limited reaction from doctors dealing with my physical health, like no shock or surprise or anything if I come out, they just stay neutral and believe me lately when I’ve done it. Two real primary care physicians this happened with. And for no real reason I came out to my physical therapist as well just because. My physical therapist’s office there was more conversation but it was friendly and interested. One PT assistant there was confused and thought I’d said I was nonbinary which he was very accepting about, just confused. Overall still pretty positive experiences.

    I needed a therapist at the end of 2017 and both therapists I spoke with about my asexuality seemed to ultimately be pretty positive interactions as well. I wrote in detail about those experiences here:

    So yeah idk. I don’t have much to complain about.

    I just turned 29 and will be going to the gynecologist finally for the first time in my life in 2.5 weeks. It took me too long to get to one. Kept putting it off…

    I’m quite nervous that she might be less accepting of my asexuality. That I might have my first truly bad experience. Idk. I’m trying to stay hopeful.

  3. I had a surprisingly good experience with a gyno. I’d put it off til I was 24 (I turn 26 in May) just on the basis of not being sexually active and got a nice lecture from the doctor about how that isn’t the only thing they have to be concerned about. She wasn’t phased at all by my aceness and was even familiar with the term. All in all, it was less scary than expected!

  4. Rachel says:

    Pretty positive for the handful of times I’ve brought up to medical professionals. But then, I’m young and healthy and am not in need of significant healthcare, so my sample pool is necessarily small..Also keep in mind that I was living in Boston at the times of those incidents, so asexual awareness was expectedly much higher there. Ironically (or perhaps not), the two major instances where I had to mention my asexuality to medical personnel were both sexual health-related research studies that I was participating in.

  5. demiandproud says:

    My current therapist is supportive, even if she’s not quite sure what my asexuality entails. My experience with doctors is that they do a double take when I tell them that no, this healthy young woman is not sexually active during my annual check-up. And them having to find the “other” space on the form to fill out the orientation in my patient profile. I’m just happy their database has a line for that.

  6. LightningEllen says:

    A counselor I talked to recently was actually quite supportive when I told her about being an ace. She didn’t know much about it, but went out of her way to try and find me ace support groups in my area. I’ve been feeling kinda lonely and outcast so I’ve been searching for ace meetups near me, with little success so far, unfortunately.

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