Do you feel being asexual has impacted your life in a positive or negative way?
I saw a link on twitter titled ‘Don’t say I’m lucky to be asexual’ (I couldn’t find it again for this post – please link in the comments if you know it!).
I know that there are challenges that asexual people, myself included, go through because of our orientation, but there are also things about it I really value.
I like that it has meant I choose my partners and friends for their values not sex appeal. I like that it makes it easier to respect my partners limits because I’m not as influenced by my own desires. I like the way it’s taught me to examine my connections with people, and the way I’ve gotten to know other people by talking about how attraction and relationships work for them. I like not having my time taken up by dating and seeking out sexual encounters. I like our kick arse colour scheme.
Do you see more value or detractions in how being asexual has influenced your life?