Do you ever think or worry about one day not being ace?
There is some discussion in the community about people who were allosexual before, are now ace, and how that is a totally valid identity. Maybe there’s not enough discussion about that kind of experience. While the original Anthony Bogaert study defined asexuality as a lifelong lack of sexual attraction, our community recognizes many more ways to be asexual. Sexuality can change and that’s completely okay.
I rarely see us talk about people who were ace before, become something else, and see both identities as valid at the time they had them. We’re understandably critical of ace being seen as just a phase, but I’m curious about people who shift out of being ace without seeing it as a mistake or misunderstanding; being ace is just an experience the person no longer has. This experience would rarely come up because these people would presumably leave the community, but what if they’re still here? I’m reminded of a few accounts I’ve read by heterosexual trans men lingering in lesbian spaces because they used to identify as a lesbian. Is there something the community could do that would benefit these previous members on the fringes?