Do you stay in touch with your exes?
Staying in touch with exes makes sense to me because I only date people that I consider my friend. Even if we don’t work out romantically or sexually I still value the friendship. I think I feel that way because the friendship before the relationship is so important to me. Genuine friendship is a prerequisite for my interest and because this sounds pretty demi I wonder if other aces feel the same about exes and friends. I was talking to an allo guy recently and he’s the exact opposite; his friendships with exes all formed after a sexual bond.
Even though in theory I’d be happy to stay in touch with my exes it hasn’t worked out that way. After two different breakups my exes and I were good friends for several months and then, without explanation, they cut me out of their lives and stopped responding to all texts. That kind of ending doesn’t make sense to me and I think because of how I view relationships and friends it never will.