Question of the Week: May 15th, 2018.

What relationship advice would you like to give to other people?

One of the most useful things that I’ve learnt about making friends is the value of telling people what you value about them.  This can be little things like ‘I had fun last night’ or ‘I really like the way you (x)’. I’ve found this has been a really good way to deepen some of my friendships, and to get good feedback about friends that value me in return.  

What advice would you like to give to other people?  This can be for friendships, romantic, professional, familial relationships, whatever.  

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Astarlia is proud of herself for only having volunteered for..... okay if you have to stop and count it's probably too many things isn't it? She is passionate about nerd culture, disability and mental health, alternative relationships, sexuality, and young adult fiction.
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3 Responses to Question of the Week: May 15th, 2018.

  1. Portia says:

    Good question for the current social environment. My most valuable experience has been when I am able to silently recognize the atman, or inner self, of others. No matter how xenophobic, fearful or angry another person is, if you persist in recognizing that they are not “that”, you can have pleasant, (sometimes only moments) of constructive interaction. It’s not constructive to talk about the atman, just engage with acceptance. I think a lot of people are used to being met with resistance and push back automatically before there is anything to push back against with you. You can choose to have an adversarial or argumentative interaction, or you can try to access the often deeply buried loving soul. This has taken me a lot of experimentation and practice and everyone is different, but it does not harm me when I don’t try to convince them they are being assholes, as long as I don’t let them walk over me.
    It’s also I think a good idea from a personal health standpoint to just avoid people who are so unconscious that they may hurt you, physically and/or mentally.

  2. Rivers says:

    I really like what you said about telling people what you value about them. I have a lot of friends who struggle with anxiety and other mental health stuff, so that can be really helpful in counteracting some of the thoughts you can go through when you have mental health problems (this depends though).

    One of the things I’ve been realizing lately is the importance of the little things in relationships. They are often overlooked because they’re the little things, but without little things it can be hard to get to or build up bigger things in a relationship.

  3. demiandproud says:

    For familial relationships, I’ve come to value emotional honesty. The drawnout conversations can be draining but less lingering resentment has meant contact is less of a minefield to navigate… for one particular contentious example.

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