What keeps you coming back to the ace community?
For the past year or so my engagement with ace spaces has gone down. To be fair I’ve been less engaged in other spaces as well. Community is important but it can also be tiring; it feels like a process rather than a place for me. And yet I always find myself returning when I am reminded by allosexual people how much their words and experiences don’t suit me. Oh yes, I remember, there is a better place with different words I can use instead. This morning it was something as simple as a friend who I might date, probably won’t, sharing how turned on he was by me. It was polite, respectful, and confusing. Interestingly it is always allosexuals that keep me coming back. I forget our discontinuities until they’re in my face and I have an “asexual moment,” where I think to myself, “damn I’m so asexual.” Have you ever had one of those?