What sort of behaviors make you feel like a person is respectful or disrespectful of consent?
I am a huge consent nerd. I consider consent important in all aspects of behaviour, not just when it comes to things like sex or touch.
I think that looking at how people are in lighter situations can give you good information about how they will be later on. One example of this is how people act in conversation. Are they aware of when others speak up and try not to speak over them? Do they notice if someone looks uncomfortable with a joke? Do they get inappropriately defensive if someone calls them out for bad behaviour?
I also feel safer around people that code as aware of queer issues. A good example of this is if someone asks me what my pronouns are. I don’t present as particularly gender nonconforming, so what this says to me isn’t just ‘what pronouns do you want me to use’ but ‘I am someone that has a good level of awareness of queer issues and how to be considerate of others.’
How do you judge someone’s ability to be trusted with consent? What other signs do you use to work out what kind of person someone is?