Question of the Week: January 23rd, 2018.

Do you wear an ace pride ring or any other pride symbols?

I have two ace coloured things that I really love – a pair of gloves an ace friend knitted me, and a ‘vote yes’ badge another friend made during the marriage equality debacle we had last year.

I love these things because I feel good about acknowledging a part of myself I am comfortable with.

Do you have any ace pride things you like?Β  Do you wear ace pride stuff for yourself or others?

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24 Responses to Question of the Week: January 23rd, 2018.

  1. luvtheheaven says:

    On my purse, I’ve been wearing ace pride pins that include the ace flag on and off since I was at ClexaCon the first weekend in March 2017 and bought my first one. When I returned home from a Thanksgiving trip in November I got in the mail more ace pins from Zazzle and have been more consistently having 2 on my purse ever since and I kinda have no plans to ever stop – as one snags and gets caught on something and the little metal back of the pin breaks I can replace it with another one. XD I was thinking I’d add a certain 3 inch diameter circle pin I bought to my backpack too but now I’m thinking I might just save it to put on my purse one day? I’m not sure.

    I have an ace pride sweatshirt from Zazzle that I’ve been wearing more and more too, even occasionally while at work. It’s a very subtly “ace” sweatshirt – it’s just a solid gray zip up sweatshirt with, where the front right pocket might be, instead a little rainbow that’s the 4 ace flag colors, and a little thing that says “these are my colors”. Mainly it just looks like I’m wearing a gray sweatshirt unless you look closely. But it’s another ace pride thing I enjoy wearing.

    At Pride on 3 separate days (1 day in June 2017, 2 days in June 2018), for sleeping (as pajamas), and very occasionally at other more casual outings, I’ve worn ace t-shirts of a few kinds.

    I love wearing ace pride things these days, especially as I get more and more “out as ace” in many places in my life. But I still don’t own a black ring and have never worn a ring in my life! I have not sworn off the possibility of wearing an ace ring one day.

    • luvtheheaven says:

      Finally, I’ve painted little asexual flags on my fingernails for ClexaCon’s 3-day conference over the Friday+weekend in March 2017, and again for Pride weekend in June 2017. For Pride I also painted my toenails but couldn’t survive standing in my sandals that reveal my toes for very long (I have foot issues – a fused joint, super flat feet, prescribed orthotics that don’t work in toeless shoes, etc) I really liked wearing the black, grey, white, and purple nail polish though. I probably should do it again this week going into Creating Change 2018… I might even reveal those nails at work this time since I’ve started doing the ace flag everything else and sorta coming out to a few more co-workers…

    • astarlia says:

      that hoodie sounds really nice πŸ™‚

  2. kaikiky says:

    Two years ago, I got my first tattoo — a black ace ring on my middle finger! I love it and I love that I could have an ace ring that I can’t take off ^-^ I also have a shirt that I decorated for myself that says ASEXUAL and has an ace flag with a spade in the middle.

    • Guorami says:

      That’s awesome! Getting an ace ring tattoo is definitely in my list of future dream tattoos, of which I don’t have any right now, so it made me really happy to see that someone had done that! πŸ˜€

  3. agigabyte says:

    I don’t wear any IRL, but my picture on social media (in lieu of any pictures from within the last year) is the ace flag.

  4. Hespa says:

    I have a decent-sized ace flag design tattooed on the inside of my wrist, kinda my compromise between “out there” and “not too out there” (i.e. somewhere more/less visible on my body). And an “asexuwhale” mug I love to use, and a t-shirt with the same design that I wear on special occasions (I don’t want to wear it out too fast!).

    Also, I’m the friend who knitted the ace gloves. 😊 I’m looking to start selling pride flag gloves (and beanies, scarves, etc), so if you’re interested in your own ace knitwear, let me know.

  5. Jen says:

    I always am wearing my ace ring. It was the first ace thing that I got and I love how its a subtle little thing that reminds me that there is a larger community of people like me, especially when I’m feeling alone.
    I now have 2 shirts from lookhuman that are ace focused that I got because I was planning on going to pride. I have worn them a few times but every time I do I tend to get rather tense if I’m going to be out in public.
    My most recent acquisition is a circular ace flag pin that I have on the edge of my work apron, my current job is pretty friendly to everyone on the spectrum but its low enough that I don’t worry about the public staring and asking rude questions.
    I wear all of my ace stuff primarily for myself, it’s a symbol that there is a community around me and that I’m not completely crazy. It’s also a sign to the others who know what the colors mean that they aren’t alone, but that’s me just hoping I see someone else that’s part of the ace community in real life too.

  6. Rivers says:

    As someone who is very in the closet, I can’t really get obvious ace stuff without outing myself even though I want to. Yes, I could get an ace ring, but I am not really a ring person. I would have to really look into it to get something I feel comfortable with. For now, I am settling with ace pride colors till I can be out and proud.

  7. teenbutch says:

    I have an ace pride flag button badge that my penpal sent me that I keep on the bag I use for uni, underneath a queer pride flag button badge that I bought (buying it was one of the most nervous moments of my life). Basically no one knows what it stands for, but it makes me really happy to see it and know that it’s there!

  8. Katherine says:

    I have an ace ring, which is pretty much the only jewelry I remember to wear with any regularity (it has also become something of a fidget toy as I can fiddle with it absently to keep my hands busy at work). I’ve also got an ace-flag-background taurus mug; an aro/ace heart pin somewhere that I keep forgetting to pin to something so it gets lost in drawers and I have to rediscover it over and over again (which always makes me smile, though); a comfy, oversized ‘Ace Pirates are not interested in your booty’ sweater, which is great for lounging around the house on cold/rainy days; a black/white/purple sweater dress that I like to pair with gray tights in order to have all the ace colors even they are out of flag order; an ace flag and an aro flag, neither of which I have anywhere to hang right now; and a jewelry hanger made from a three-slot picture frame with decorative metal I spray painted for the ace, aro, and demi-girl flags in the slots. (Demi-girl being the part of my identity I struggle with self-acceptance the most; if I keep reminding myself that the times I identify as a woman don’t invalidate the times I identify as agender, I’ll get there in the end.)

    • Rivers says:

      I would love to have an ace pirate shirt or sweater:) Demi-girl is also the part of my identity I struggle with the most. It’s only been a fairly recent discovery of mine, and I just don’t know anyone in my life right now I would feel safe coming out to … I don’t even know if I’m really comfortable with it yet.

  9. DasTenna says:

    I wear a black ring, decorated my laptop with pride flag stickers and my bag with buttons.

  10. Elizabeth says:

    I have a black ring. I only wear it sometimes because it’s made of tungsten, so it’s pretty heavy and the weight of it can tire out my finger. But I like the look of it.

    I also have some ace pride shirts, but I wear those much less often, basically only for special events these days. I think I’d rather have more subtle shirts than the ones I have, so that I would be more comfortable wearing them whenever. A lot of my wardrobe is in ace colors though. Sometimes I will paint my nails with ace colors too. Most of the time I’m pretty low key about ace stuff these days though.

  11. Cracticus says:

    I have an ace ring. It’s dark grey rather than black which I’m fine with. I don’t wear it very often, mostly only at social events. I also wove myself a fluffy scarf in ace colours to spite my mum when she told me not to tell anyone I was ace after I came out to her.

    That marriage equality “debate” was so awful. I wanted to disconnect from everything while it was going on. Though, it was really enheartening to see the shop fronts in my town put up “Vote Yes” posters. I’m so glad it’s over.

  12. I really want to get an ace pride ring! I have a sticker on my phone that says “thanks for coming out” with a unicorn and a rainbow, from a National Coming Out Day event at my school.

  13. Seth says:

    I have a couple rings, and a flag for events like marches. Also, my bedroom is painted in the colors of the ace and NB flags (but with much lighter shades of yellow, purple, and grey).

  14. Mx. Whipstitch says:

    Yep. I got a tiny black right two years ago and rarely ever take it off.

  15. Nowhere Girl says:

    I can’t wear an ace ring because I always wear cotton gloves outdoors because of my allergy – I just want to hide my scratched skin (or have some protection if my fingers itch more than usual) and I got used to it, I feel strange, somewhat unhygienic and not dressed enough if I leave home without gloves. I wear them regardless of weather: in the summer I just tolerate them or sometimes wear mittens instead and in the winter I also wear warm gloves on top. These cotton gloves are black to look acceptable with anything… so you get it: a black ring on black gloves would be simply invisible. πŸ˜‰
    I din’t think that ace colors look particularly good, to be honest, but I have a bracelet made of large plastic beads according to my design: stripes in ace colors and on that background rainbow hearts. I also have an anklet with beads in ace colors and an ace of spades pendant. I’ve read that anklets are considered sexy and while I explicitly dislike being sexy, there is something subversive about an asexual message in a form considered sexy.
    I also have a lot of rainbow jewellery. I’m homoaffectional anyway, but also… well, I think it’s a gross misunderstanding to think that rainbow stands for gays and lesbians only. I have nothing against separate pride colors for bisexual or trans people, but rainbow was originally meant to symbolise DIVERSITY among sexual and gender minorities. So in my understanding asexuals can also be a part of the rainbow (since we obviously ARE a sexual minority), regardless of whether the “LGBT+ mainstream” accepts aces as part of the movement or not. As an ace and rebel I have my own authority to decide that for me the answer is yes.

  16. 8faces says:

    I’ve been sewing pride flag designs into some of the clothes I make, and also clip-on flags that I put on the straps of bags. More agender than ace ones so far, although I had a combined agender/asexual flag in a rainbow shape digitally printed onto a T shirt when I was unable to buy the cloth in the right colours. Tempted to make an ‘ace-pron’ for the kitchen…

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