Did you make a New Years Resolution? If so, what is it?
This year I’m committing myself to doing Yoga with Adriene’s True You 30 Day Yoga Challenge. Her playful attitude and find what feels good mantra always keeps my spirits up. In December I did twenty minutes of restorative yoga most days after breakfast and it’s really improved my mood. I’ve tried some of Adriene’s 30 day challenges before but never got through a whole thirty days. Usually something comes up and I skip a day, and then one more, and the magic is sort of gone. This time I’ll have a new daily video and a stronger resolution to stick with it. I’ve never made a New Years Resolution before and I’m curious to see how this one goes 🙂
The Asexual Agenda 
I generally don’t make new year’s resolutions. However, I finally signed up at a gym and I want to improve my really bad fitness level and to become stronger, more muscular and yet more sexually invisible.
I don’t make resolutions either, because I feel like for me, that’s just setting myself up for failure. I’ve read about how they’re more likely to work if they’re process-oriented (as in, “I will write for x amount of time every day at 9 am”) rather than goal-oriented (as in, “I will write a novel”) but for me, even process-oriented resolutions are difficult to make work. I never really know how I’m going to be doing on any given day, so. At the very least I’d have to have flexibility about the time and a built-in plan for self-forgiveness and/or making the lost time up later.
Instead, if I want to try to commit to doing something… I just do it, at any time of the year. Whenever I feel up for it, because if I wait until the next year rolls around I won’t feel like doing it by the time it actually does. It’s super important to start on the project while I still feel motivated to do it. And I give it a test run of about a month (or even a week) and then check in and decide whether or not to stick with it and if so, how to refine the process. That’s basically what I’ve been doing for the past year with a bunch of different things. Some have worked out, but a lot haven’t, and that’s okay too. Failure to meet the goal is still a success as long as I learn from it about what does/doesn’t work for me, and take that knowledge into the next attempt.
(Side note: I love Adriene’s videos too! Never tried one of the challenges before though.)
I, too, don’t usually make New Year’s resolutions but this year I thought about the fact that whenever I want to befriend someone I actually just go up to them and I start talking to them but whenever I’m romantically attracted to someone I’m too scared to even engage in a conversation with them, let alone make the first move. So this year I want to try to be more proactive. If I get a crush on someone I’ll try to approach the situation the same way I approach starting new friendships.
I signed up for the same yoga challenge but have yet to do any of it. I might try just once a week because I’m awful at every day things and I do want to do more yoga. It’s not specifically a New Year’s resolution though, just an idea (that way there’s no pressure :P)
My actual New Year’s resolution is to go plastic free, which has an extra added benefit of also giving up pretty much all processed foods and thereby (hopefully) losing a little weight. It’s not going to be a very easy task, but the environment’s important I guess.