How do you feel about people flirting with you?
Does the experience change significantly if it’s a friend, a stranger, a joke, serious interest, cautious, or blunt? What other factors influence how you feel about being flirted with?
I enjoy being flirted with after I’ve developed enough sense of a person to be confident that they are respectful of boundaries. A stranger at the gym? No, but someone I’ve chatted with several times at the gym can be okay. Guys I meet on dating sites that flirt right away lose my interest. Friends that flirt, an acquaintance from class that seems decent, guys on video games, or that barista at Starbucks are fun to me.
I’ve always had a hard time understanding flirting and for me that’s actually the appeal; it’s like a game that everyone else gets, you can kind of see the rules, and you can play with. I enjoy flirting back and often even start it myself. The respect for boundaries is important because sometimes I want to go further, but usually flirting is a pleasurable end in itself.