Do you not experience sexual attraction and desire as linked together or independently?
It was tricky for me to come up with a simple way to phrase this question. The absence of a correlation is difficult to discuss, but if things are absent together, that’s a link.
I think for many allosexual and asexual people sexual attraction desire are linked. Either both are experienced or not experienced, making them appear as a single seamless experience. Is that actually how they are, or is that just a dominant narrative (or even stereotype)?
I think of sexual attraction and sexual desire as two separate phenomena because they occur (or don’t) independently in me.
I’m not sexually attracted to anyone so it just doesn’t exist. My sexual desire ebbs and flows doing its own thing, seemingly independent of people or any external drives. Experiencing sexual attraction and desire as two very separate things is one of the main reasons I identify as asexual and sex-favorable (one identity label for each thing).
If you’re comfortable sharing, are they linked or independent for you, sometimes linked sometimes not, or even, what do you think about the topic at all?