Do you integrate self care into your life, and if so, what works for you?
I’ve seen self-care and activism come up a few times in the ace community, most notably in the February 2017 Carnival of Aces on Resistance, Activism, and Self-Care. Even though we talk about self care, actually doing self care feels very isolated for me. Self care is like turning off your cell phone and venturing into a dark forest to leave “the world” behind and nurture parts of yourself that can only be nurtured in mysterious silent places. Partly this is true because my self care does involve walks in the forest, but it is also metaphorical, in that I can’t imagine doing self care while in “the world” (whatever that is).
Every day I try to practice yoga, meditate, go for a walk in the forest behind my house, take a bubble bath with lavender, make herbal tea, drink a green smoothie, and journal with Julia Cameron’s morning pages. Over years of practicing self care I’ve honed in on activities that when done most days, vastly improve my general mood. Some days I easily do everything on my list and other days the list itself exhausts me. But mostly my self care is done alone: separate but important I remind myself.
For the last year my mind has been buzzing with self care. Can I integrate it into my life more wholly and what about activism? I’ve made many attempts, but I’m still thinking. What does activism look like that turns inward and nurtures our community? It looks like support resources like Resources for Ace Survivors, and maybe a bit like consciousness raising from feminism in the 70s, but also other things and more.
I’m curious if you’ve been thinking about these things too. What does self care mean to you, in relation to your own life, or ace communities in general?