Have you ever been afraid to use a label because you thought people would judge you?
In the past I’ve worried about using too many labels. The more uncommon words I use, the more at risk I feel of people labelling me as a special snowflake or asking me about Tumblr in a derogatory way. My discomfort is linked to quantity. I can’t remember the last time I was afraid to identity as asexual by itself. Sometimes I worry because people usually don’t understand what I mean by asexual, but this is more mild discomfort than fear. Every disclosure risks becoming an educational moment that teeters on invasive. I have been afraid to identify as nonbinary because people who haven’t heard the term before can be almost aggressively defensive in their initial surprise. Maybe it means we’ve come a long way in outreach that I am not afraid people will be aggressive about my asexuality.