Linkspam: July 14th, 2017

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

The Comic Jaunt has three demi folk comparing their experiences and giving advice on making friends with people that want to date you.

gretchensinister wrote about the specter of Chad the Aro Fratboy.

Ace Community Activity

cassz has a collection of resources about asexuality and race.

News & Outreach

Romper has an article by someone who realized they were asexual after having a kid.

AmeliaAce talks about common misconceptions about asexuality.

Buzzfeed posted ’19 Things Asexual people want you to know about Asexuality’.  Bonus points for the injoke in the url.

Glamour posted an interview with Beth from ACE Los Angeles.

Queerty posted an interview with Steve and Thom from Pieces of Ace.



About queenieofaces

QueenieOfAces is a graduate student in the U.S. studying Japanese religion. She is a queer asexual. She also blogs over at Concept Awesome and runs Resources for Ace Survivors. She is never quite sure what to write in these introduction things, but this one time she accidentally got a short story on asexuality published in an erotica magazine.
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12 Responses to Linkspam: July 14th, 2017

  1. alias says:

    The newest article in cassz’s (awesome) collection of resources about asexuality and race is sorely lacking. To ignore entire populations of people of color is just ignorant – heads up, there are more people of color than just Latinx, Black, and Native American. There’s more to the world than America (including, like, all the other indigenous people) and there are places like Asia and the Middle East. Ugh.

    Affinity Magazine: Asexual People of Color on Their Experiences

  2. Siggy says:

    From the aro fratboy article, it says:

    when I use Straight (with a capital S, I mean heteroromantic, heterosexual, cisgender, and perisex; straightness with the full power of heteronormativity)

    Ugh, why? That just reminds me of that satirical article I wrote imagining a world where aces were the most powerful queer group. In that post, I defined “non-ace” as “heterosexual, heteroromantic, and cisgender”, and then argued that trans people were non-ace.

    • Rachel says:

      I’m not the author (as you’ve clearly noticed), but from how I read it: the point of designating Straightness as inherently cis is that cis people don’t accept relationships involving trans people as “really straight”, or, conversely as “really gay,” or whatever. See: “gay trans men are really just straight girls/a relationship between a straight man and trans woman is actually just gay, etc.”

      Is that helpful?

      • Siggy says:

        Yes, some cis people have incorrect views on whether and when trans people are really straight. But why should we let that determine our usage of “straight”?

        • Rachel says:

          I must be reading this very differently from you. As far as I can tell, the author distinguishes straightness-as-orientation (which some trans people are) from straightness-as-power-position (which seems to get diminished for straight trans people enter the picture). I see it as a parallel to het aces and het aros: who may share elements of straightness-as-orientation, but are not accepted as “real straights” by heteroromantic heterosexual people (the straight-straights), and thus don’t have unfettered access to the straight-people-club and all of its perks.

      • Siggy says:

        I think you’re dismissing this as a difference in interpretation when it’s really a substantive disagreement. If the author really means what you think they mean, my reaction is still “Ugh, but why?”

        Yes some people who are straight are not accepted as “real straights” by certain het/het/cis jerks. The author may think they are being critical of the jerks, but their choice of language instead reinforces the jerks.

        • Rachel says:

          I was misreading your criticism as a “this isn’t phrased very clearly, some elaboration would be useful” and that dictated my tone accordingly. But I’d like to hear more on why you think so.

          • Siggy says:

            It’s just a bad idea to use the same word for heterosexuality, and for the antonym of queer. Differentiating between the two based on capitalization (“straight” vs “Straight”) is insufficient. Using the words this way just transparently centers non-heterosexuality as the prototypical form of queerness. It makes it harder for heterosexual trans people, intersex people, and heteroromantic aces to talk about their experiences, because people keep on thinking “That means you’re straight, which means you’re not queer.” It’s no coincidence that many asexuals identify as gay or lesbian, but fewer identify as straight.

            It would be equally absurd if I instead said “I use Cisgender with a capital C to refer to cisgender, perisex, heterosexual, and heteroromantic people–in other words, cisness with the full power of cisnormativity.” Or, like in my old parody, “I use Allo with a capital A to refer to heterosexual, heteroromantic, cisgender, and perisex people–in other words alloness with the full power of allonormativity.”

            Another lesser concern I have is that talking about “Straight privilege” in this way suggests very simplified view of privilege. Talking about any kind of privilege is difficult because as it turns out, for example, some people with White privilege are disabled, or in poverty, or queer. So, you just have to keep that sort of thing in mind whenever you talk about privilege. But talking about “Straight privilege” with a capital S is kind of like saying “Nope, we don’t have to think about those complications! As long as we combine several (unlike) privileges together, we can create a platonic ideal of The Privileged Person!”

          • Rachel says:

            Okay, that makes sense. Thanks for clarifying.

  3. Quirky Books says:

    Thanks for the opportunity to let people know about my site with products, resources and services, for asexuals, including asexual merchandise. I design and sell “Asexualise” Asexual T Shirts on Amazon and I also have a channel for asexuals, that empowers asexuals to be comfortable and confident with asexuality and educates others about asexuality.

    • Siggy says:

      I think we might draw the line at plugging merchandising. However, if you suggest a particular video, we might link it in a future linkspam.

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