How do you think your asexuality will affect you in old age?
Being asexual is going to have a huge impact on what me old age looks like. Even before I realised I was ace, I knew I didn’t want to get married and have babies. I liked partners, but I never felt that desire to move in with them or build a life together.
And I realise that this is going to change the kind of supports that I have in place when I’m elderly. I have a good relationship with my siblings, and they are enough younger than me that I always joke with them that they need to look after me when they get old, but beyond that there is always the little part of me that hopes that they have children I get along with. Cause you know what? Getting old without family can really suck.
The upside though, is that chosen family is totally a thing. One of my favourite memories of working as a nurse is seeing a patient get cared for by his best friend and her partner. It stuck with me because I had such a strong sense of ‘that will be me’. And I see so many other people in alternative caring arrangements as they get old. A group of my friends are buying a house together because they want to share house together, and many other people seem to have this as an ideal.
I don’t know what my life is going to look like when I’m old, but being ace has made me value the non-traditional relationships in my life, and I think that things are going to be okay.