Do you experience forms of attraction such as platonic, aesthetic, sensual, intellectual etc. in a gray, ambiguous, confusing, or unclear way?
Many people in the ace community discuss feeling sexual and/or romantic orientation in ways that are confusing to them, shifting, not always there, or gray, but what about the other forms of attraction? For example, do you always know when you are experiencing aesthetic attraction, or is it difficult to tell what form of attraction you’re experiencing?
Very rarely I feel incredibly drawn to people and ask myself, is this platonic attraction? A friend crush? Do I just really like who they are as a person? Probably not sensual attraction, but I can’t be sure. Do I just really like how they look? I don’t want to date them or have sex with them, but what is going on? This happens so rarely and never amounts to anything so I just brush it off and keep going on. Every once in a while I wonder though: is it this a hint that I experience multiple forms of attraction as linked, when in other people they operate independently, or is it actually just one particular type of attraction that’s too gray for me to pin down?