Do you have many queer and/or ace friends?
I’ve heard several stories about queer/ace people being friends with each other before any of them realize that they’re ace/queer. It seems that sometimes people who feel outside the norm attract each other, labels or not.
But that’s not my experience. A few childhood friends have come out as queer or trans, but not that many. I have many queer friends, but it’s by design, not by accident. Many years of hanging out in queer and ace spaces has had quite an impact on the demographics of my friends.