Did you ever identify as anything else before you realized you were asexual?
Until I was 17 I assumed that I was heterosexual. I quickly knew I wasn’t attracted to girls. Before I knew about asexuality crossing girls off the list meant all that was left was that I had to be straight. I distinctly remember even calling myself boy crazy; I plastered my entire high school locker with pictures of boys from electronica bands (probably much to the chagrin of my unfortunate locker partner). I had elaborate fantasies of liking them for them. To me that meant that I wanted to marry a guy from a band because I liked who he was as a person, which was a convenient way to dismiss my complete lack of sexual attraction. It wasn’t until I realized asexuality existed as a term that I put my supposed heterosexuality in perspective and noticed that it had never fit.