What are terms or concepts from the ace community that people outside of it would find useful?
This question came to me as I continue to explore online BDSM and polyamory communities. I think that discussions of consent (especially enthusiastic consent), limits, and aftercare in BDSM and communication in polyamory would be of value to people outside of these contexts. Aftercare takes on a particular charge in a “risk aware” BDSM context. I’m curious how aftercare would look in everyday interactions void of BDSM, but where care remains essential.
In terms of the ace community I think the distinction/not-distinction between sexual and other forms of attraction and behaviour would be useful outside of our community. I’d be curious to see what unfolds in a space where it is equally possible for attraction and behaviour to be recognized as perfectly valid when linked or not linked. For example, what would it do to “gay porn” or “straight porn” when behaviours are no longer seen as the only indicators of sexual orientation? I’m thinking here of the bisexual, pansexual, queer, asexual, and other people, that get continually erased in behaviour = attraction = orientation models.