Do you ever step back and realize how ridiculous your family is?
I think it’s common for many people to grow up and think their family is normal, only to later to find out how weird they are. As I went through college and grad school, I became more and more aware of how much my parents argued with each other. It’s hard to explain my feelings about it. The arguments aren’t indicative of marriage problems, the arguments are just stupid. Like if we go to a theme park, they will spend a long time arguing about the most efficient order to visit the rides, after the fact.
What helped me realize this was two things: living away from my parents, and having my partner meet my parents. My partner was really bothered by the arguments at first, whereas I had long learned to tune them out. In exchange, I’ve had a few things to say about my partner’s parents and their strange habits. But it occurs to me that this isn’t a universal experience, since having partners who meet your parents isn’t a universal experience.