What do you think about the many different types of attraction? Do you only talk about sexual and romantic attraction, or are sensual, platonic, aesthetic, and intellectual attraction also meaningful to you? Why or why not?
In my personal experience the different types of attraction have become more important as I try to verbally express my lack of sexual attraction. Because of this I believe that my interest in the many forms of attraction is strongly linked to my asexuality. Drawing from my experience, I wonder, are multiple forms of attraction discussed less in allo spaces than in ace spaces because allo people regularly experience many forms of attraction simultaneously and cohesively? In other words, does being ace make the distinctions matter more?
On that note, what distinctions matter? Potential BDSM forms of attraction offer some interesting insight. For example, sadist and masochist attraction would look very different from each other and may or may not be linked to sexual attraction. And yet, I don’t really see people talk about sadist attraction. My initial hypothesis is that because the distinctions are largely prevalent in ace communities, where we don’t regularly discuss wanting to have sex and/or engage in BDSM, certain kinds of distinctions matter less or won’t be formulated at all.