Do you (or would you, if given the option) list yourself as ace on social networking or dating websites?
I’ve been an out asexual for years and yet when I filled out my profile on Okcupid I hesitated on the sexual orientation section. My profile says over and over again that I’m just looking for friends, but what would it mean to declare myself asexual there? The question really stuck with me when I found my first other asexual on the site and their profile said something like “I’m asexual, which means I don’t have sex.” I opted for the more ambiguous option of queer. Since then I’ve been messaged by straight, queer, bi, pan, and lesbian identified people, but no other aces.
As a teen on Vampirefreaks I picked asexual in a flurry of excitement. I couldn’t believe it was an option. Every now and then would get messages from fellow aces.
On Facebook you can only pick interested in women and/or men. That’s confusing because I was able to pick the gender none and pronoun they. I opted out of the section and even though I’d like to think it means I’m not interested in anyone, most people probably assume I just didn’t fill it out.
I’ve noticed that the sexual orientation I declare on my profile is strategic and context specific, much like offline. What about you?