Paper: Asexuality in China’s Sexual Revolution

Content warning: Medicalization of asexuality and comparison to abuse.

It’s well-known that English asexual communities are dominated by people in the US, UK, Canada, and Australia.  This blog has made minimal efforts to include voices from other countries, but one of our blind spots is China.  You know, that one country that has three times more people than the US, UK, Canada, and Australia combined.

The thing is, between the language barrier and the Great Firewall, hardly anyone in the English-speaking community knows anything.  The closest we’ve gotten is our interview with Robin, but Taiwan isn’t the same as Mainland China at all.  And given the complete lack of communication, it’s possible that asexuality in China is so different as to be unrecognizable.

That’s why I was interested to see this recent paper: Asexuality in China’s Sexual Revolution: Asexual Marriage as a Coping Strategy. By Day Wong, in Sexualities, February 2015.


The paper focuses on, a website for finding sexless marriage partners.  Wx920 stands for wu-xing jiu-ai-ni which literally means “sexless love-you-long-time”.  Of course, there are many people who might be interested in sexless marriages, not just asexuals.  On that note, the website also uses a different definition of asexual:3

“Those who lose sexual function due to inborn or acquired defects, become sexually apathetic due to traumatic experiences, those who simply want to pursue platonic love, and elderly people”

I was taken aback, since Wx920 doesn’t look at all analogous to asexual communities as we know them, differing both in its purpose and definition.  And it’s not a matter of there not being any analogous Chinese asexual communities, because I know there are a few.  I asked Robin about it and they said:

While the portrayal of [Wx920] in the paper is not incorrect, the researcher has highly overestimated the influence of it in Chinese culture, especially within the asexual community.

Perhaps the user base of Wx920 represents a much larger population of Chinese “potential” asexuals.  But even there, the paper notes that the user base is mostly urban, educated, and relatively high-income even for urban Chinese.1 It’s hard to say.  In any case, the paper gives us a window into Chinese culture and how it might interact with asexuality.

The Chinese sexual revolution

The Chinese sexual revolution is a dramatic shift in Chinese attitudes towards sex that has been going on since the end of the Cultural Revolution in the late 70s.  Wong characterizes it as state-sponsored, and it is clear throughout the paper that it is propagated by government-produced media and by Chinese researchers.  For example, Wong mentions an article in The Chinese Journal of Human Sexuality, published by the Department of Health:

An article therein on the relationship between orgasm and marital harmony claimed that failure to achieve sexual satisfaction results in refusal of sex, which consequently leads to family breakdown and other social problems.

And in sexology research,

orgasm rates among married couples have become an indicator of progress and modernity.

This appears representative of general attitudes.  A healthy sex life is important for the relationship, for the family, and society at large.  Not having sex with one’s partner is considered to be harmful to them, possibly inflicting physical conditions such as erectile dysfunction.  There is public concern about “cold violence”, referring to a lack of verbal or physical communication, which may be as bad as or worse than physical abuse.

For people not interested in sex, this presents a problem, since they don’t want to harm their partners.  One interviewee said:

What normal woman wouldn’t need sex? Even though she didn’t say it, I could see that this was the case. I just couldn’t bear to ruin her life.

Medicalization and demedicalization

Many members of Wx920 describe themselves as having medical conditions.2  It’s morally obligatory for people to seek medical treatments first, and only seek sexless marriages as a last resort if it turns out an effective treatment doesn’t exist… yet.  Wong also mentions several distinctions made on the basis of medicalization:

some members adopt medical-psychological discourse to make distinctions between ‘no sex’ and ‘a small amount of sex’, innate and acquired characteristics, biological and psychological defects.

Wong also compares to an asexual forum on Baidu Tieba (which is a Chinese social networking site).  Unlike Wx920, the Baidu Tieba forum appears to be more geared towards forming an asexual identity, and has more influence from the English asexual community.  In reaction to the widespread medicalization of asexuality, the forum moderators distinguish between people with sexual dysfunctions (who want sex and are distressed about not having it) and asexuals (who aren’t distressed).  People who express negativity towards sex are encouraged to seek medical help.  Asexuals with sexual dysfunction are recognized, but within the narrative they are comfortable with it.

Wong says that this discourse ignores the ambivalent feelings people may have, as well as asexuals with physical or mental disabilities.

New relationship structures

In the English asexual community, when we talk about creating new kinds of relationship structures, we often draw upon ideas from friendships or polyamory.  The new relationship structures aspired to on Wx920 are somewhat different.

Wong describes three ideals.  First is “platonic love”, which draws upon ideas of romantic love without the sex.  There are many descriptions of sharing a house, getting a dog, traveling.  A second ideal is the “pro forma marriage”, marriage with gays and lesbians of opposite sex.  There’s a lot of pressure to marry, so many people find that to be the best compromise.  But there’s also a third ideal, that of celibacy, living the single life.

Wong says “asexuals hold the keys to transfiguring relational networks that circumvent the importance of exclusive dyadic units.”  But my main impression is that the situation of Chinese asexuals is rather grim.

1. For some reason, Wx920 requires its members to provide information about their income, occupation, and property ownership, although for all I know this is typical for a Chinese dating site.  The median monthly income of the people interviewed was 570-820 USD, whereas the median for urban Chinese is 367 USD.

2. Some specific examples given: venogenic erectile dysfunction, polycystic ovarian syndrome, and Klinefelter syndrome

3. Some of the paper’s claims are questioned in the comments.

About Siggy

Siggy is an ace activist based in the U.S. He is gay gray-A, and has a Ph.D. in physics. He has another blog where he also talks about math, philosophy, godlessness, and social criticism. His other hobbies include board games and origami.
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5 Responses to Paper: Asexuality in China’s Sexual Revolution

  1. queenieofaces says:

    Interesting to note that “pro forma marriage” is also an accepted relationship form in Japanese ace communities. (harris-hijiri and I were just talking about this earlier this month.) Here’s a blog by an ace guy who married a lesbian: And I know of at least one other ace woman and who married a gay man. So…some people consider the double beard the best possible outcome. (You can have a family and children but also a partner who understands, to some extent, where you’re coming from, and relationships on the side, if you want.)

  2. Eponine says:

    Kinda strange that the paper is supposed to be about asexuality but focuses on, which isn’t about asexuals at all (although asexuals certainly can be part of its target users). The website doesn’t use a different definition of asexual, but it never mentions “asexual” (无性恋), only “non-sexual” or “sexless” (无性). And a small correction: According to the website, wx920 stands for “无性就爱你”, which means “sexless just love you” (就 = just, 久 = long time, both are pronounced jiu).

    “Pro forma marriage” is indeed a unique phenomenon in the Chinese asexual community (at least compared to the English one). Most of the cases seem to be gay men looking for asexual girls, and it’s quite possible that they assume asexuals are all aromantics. Some romantic asexuals are annoyed by this kind of pro forma marriage proposals. And because consensual non-monogamy isn’t well known or accepted in China at all, many people don’t like the idea of having a pro forma marriage and romantic/sexual relationships outside.

    • Siggy says:

      Thanks for the corrections about wx920. I was simply repeating claims made by the paper, which I cannot verify on my own.

      There are a couple quotes in the paper which are (apparently) of asexuals seeking Pro Forma marriages with gay and lesbian people. But these are people from wx920, who would likely have a different perspective from the asexuals you speak of.

      • Eponine says:

        Yeah, the pro forma marriage posts I’ve seen are mostly in the asexual group on, whose members are probably quite different from those on wx920. Also, not all the asexuals there are against pro forma marriage with homosexuals either. Some understand it, and some are open to it themselves. I haven’t heard of any ace-gay success stories, but I believe it can work out between the right people.

  3. Sara K. says:

    I second the first paragraph of Eponine’s comment (I have no objections to anything else Eponine says, I simply don’t know much about pro forma marriage in China and thus cannot confirm).

    As far as dating websites … though I know little about Chinese dating websites, the fact that they require income/occupation/property information does not surprise me. In Taiwan, asking people you barely know about their income/property is not rude, and if marriage is a possibility, it’s considered essential information (particularly for older generations).

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