Bouncing off the discussion of preferred identity labels from a few weeks ago, I’ve been thinking about preferred terms for significant others (if you have one). Since I got married, I’ve noticed that a lot of people default to “wife” to refer to me and my one partner, in an effort to be supportive. Unfortunately, that word feels wrong to both of us–me because I’m still really not comfortable with the cultural baggage that comes along with marriage, and my partner who doesn’t actually identify as female. I’ve found over time that I vastly prefer words that have some more ambiguity or which are a little less charged, like “partner” (my top choice always) or “spouse” if I’m dealing with legal stuff. Which is all just a long winded way of building up to saying this:
Are you more or less comfortable with some relationship terms than others? If so, why?