Monthly Archives: November 2014

Squishes and unlearning heteronormativity

Until a few years ago, I might have told you that I’ve had one crush in my life. It didn’t last very long, nothing came of it, and the man I had the feelings for never knew about it. After … Continue reading

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Linkspam: November 28th, 2014

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments! partially-stars wrote about defining asexuality and using it as a tool. Rotten … Continue reading

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Question of the Week: November 25th 2014

In the US, Thanksgiving is on Thursday, which means family gatherings for a lot of people.  Do you join your family at this time of year?  Is it enjoyable or not?  Or if you don’t celebrate, you may talk about … Continue reading

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Carnival of Aces: Asexuals, Allies, and Advocacy

There was a Carnival of Aces held in September, but the host never posted the link summary, and I lost contact with them afterwards.  So I’m posting the link summary, over a month late.  The theme was “Asexuals, Allies, and … Continue reading

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Linkspam: November 21st, 2014

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments! kinkyasexuals wrote about asexuality and Judaism. Good Magazine ran an article on … Continue reading

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Question of the Week: November 18th, 2014

So in the past couple of weeks I’ve been thinking a lot about labels, mostly because of the excellent discussions on how ace communities have historically viewed labels and why (see here and here for more context). The emphasis on … Continue reading

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How identity is like a democracy

Why do the kids these days have so many words and identity labels? That’s the question we ask year after year.  But isn’t that funny?  If it’s the same thing year after year, why does it seem like kids these … Continue reading

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Being asexual, “of the bi-ish persuasion,” and afraid

This post was written for the current #BiTalks.  You too can submit, but only if you write really fast, because Queenie is a slowpoke and is submitting on the last possible day. At Pride this past June, two people from the Boston … Continue reading

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What if we treated sex like a root canal? Preliminary thoughts on sex aversion, consent, and agency

Content note: This post focuses on my situation as a sex-averse asexual woman. The discussion of sexual consent and agency has serious implications for survivors of sexual violence and others for whom sex has become a site of trauma. However, … Continue reading

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Linkspam: November 14th, 2014

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments! demisexuality.org wrote a demisexual’s guide to sex. gradientlair wrote about rethinking romantic … Continue reading

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