A few weeks ago, there was some discussion about sex-repulsion/indifference (or aversion/favorable, depending on your favorite terminology) as something that isn’t so much an immutable binary or even a clear spectrum but something that changes fairly dramatically depending on context.
This idea fit neatly into my own preconceptions on the subject, in part because it has been true both personally and for most of the friends I’ve talked to about repulsion. In fact, I’ve often been hesitant for this reason to commit to labeling myself either way for this reason. I’ve also known a lot of people who were much less squicked by text vs video porn, or who were only interested in sex in the context of kink, or who are okay with sex as long as they personally don’t have to get involved, along with a lot of other personal types of comfort zones. So, I’m curious, dear readers:
In what contexts is sexual activity or content appealing for you, and in what contexts is it aversive? I think I’ve mentioned before, my comfort level with sexual content and sexual jokes drastically changes depending on how safe I feel with the people I’m talking with–how much they respect me being ace and whether they know I’m ace at all, whether they stop if I send signals that I’m uncomfortable by trying to change the subject, how well I know them to begin with. Whether or not people are joking about sexuality in general or my sexuality is also pretty important to my comfort level.
I don’t actually think that is all that unusual, to be honest. I know lots of allo women who are comfortable or uncomfortable with sex jokes along similar lines. I also am more comfortable with written sexual content than I am with visual porn and more comfortable with still images than moving ones. Again, not super uncommon in my experience.