How has your identity expanded and changed over time?
When I first started identifying as asexual, I identified as clearly aromantic asexual and indifferent about sex. At the time I also felt identity was more private than I do now, and had actually not intended to talk about it with anyone, ever. …you can all see how that one turned out.
Now, I’ve become less sure about romantic orientation as a concept and at the same time identified a gender bias in the way I form close relationships. I’m less likely to frame the kinds of relationships I always wanted as friendships–in part because of learning that most other people didn’t seem to be thinking of things the same way I was–and much less likely to frame things as either romantic or not romantic. I suspect I’m much closer to the ‘repulsed’ side of things than I originally thought I was. And I’m way less prickly about my gender expression than I used to be.