Monthly Archives: May 2014

Linkspam: May 30th, 2014

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments! Reminder: Saturday is the last day to submit to the May Carnival of Aces! … Continue reading

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Sex-Normativity in Islamic Discourse and the Queerness of Asexuality

In my Tumblr post, Islam, Patriarchy, and the Recalcitrant Asexual Wife, I analyzed orthodox Islamic discourses on marriage and how they may impact asexual Muslims who are seeking to get married but who do not wish to or who are … Continue reading

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The Colonized Asexual – a response to racial trauma

Essential understandings of being ‘born’ ‘asexual’ and loving my ‘asexual’ self will never make sense to me. In a world that continually erases Asian (male assigned) sexualities I was coerced into asexuality. It is something I have and will continue … Continue reading

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Question of the Week: May 27th, 2014

Many people have strong opinions on bars.  How about you?  Do you have feelings about bars? I feel like my image of a bar is a place where people meet strangers, but I have never used a bar for that … Continue reading

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Why don’t we talk about non-normative relationships failing?

Trigger/content warnings: references to rape (including corrective rape), discussion of abusive relationships, victim blaming When I saw the call for submissions for the Rotten Zucchinis zine going around, my first thought was, No one is going to submit to that.  It wasn’t that there was … Continue reading

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The context of queer asexuality, or Why I am a reactionary

I remember a time when the only people asking whether asexuals were queer were asexuals themselves. This was before Tumblr, before the great “asexual privilege” drama of 2011. It was on Ye Olde AVEN forums. Every few weeks on AVEN, … Continue reading

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Why I no longer engage the “Are aces queer?” question

Last year, Siggy had an excellent post, What does it mean to say asexuals are queer? Captain Heartless’s recent guest post, Why the “Are Asexuals Queer?” Question is Incoherent takes a similar approach. It took me most of the time … Continue reading

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Linkspam: May 23rd, 2014

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments! The Ace Theist talks about what Christians say about sex, and what other … Continue reading

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Why the “Are Asexuals Queer?” Question is Incoherent

The following is a guest post by Captain Heartless. Recently at an ace meet up, someone brought up the “are asexuals queer?” question and made me realize I’d never fully fleshed out some of the assumptions behind the question. Siggy … Continue reading

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The Olivia Experiment and the portrayal of asexual groups

The Olivia Experiment is a comedy about a woman who is a virgin.  All the characters seem to agree that this is what’s holding Olivia back, so as an experiment she prepares to have sex with a friend, and document … Continue reading

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