Question of the Week: February 5th, 2013

This is the Question of the Week, a way to stimulate conversation.  It occurs every other Tuesday. What’s one thing you wish non-asexuals knew about the asexual spectrum? (For this question, please consider “non-asexuals” to be those people who are not asexual, grey-asexual, or demisexual.)

About Aydan

Aydan is an aromantic asexual biology grad student in the US. She blogs at Confessions of an Ist about asexuality, Christianity, environmentalism, and feminism.
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7 Responses to Question of the Week: February 5th, 2013

  1. Gwendolyn says:

    I wish that they knew the term “ace,” so that I could talk about things casually without having to constantly backtrack and explain things.

  2. Eponine says:

    Asexual relationships are not “just friendship”. Also I hate the phrase “just friendship”. A relationship that isn’t romantic or sexual can still be significant.

    • hotpot says:

      Word. I’ve even heard someone say that if a fully sexual husband and wife stop having sex in their old age (15% of marriages are platonic, btw), they revert to “just buddies”. What the hell?

  3. morethanx says:

    Can it be as basic as we exist, and it isn’t a sign of a disorder? Failing that, I’d like people to know not to say things that are on the bingo cards.

  4. hotpot says:

    I wish people wouldn’t conflate being a “man” or a “woman” with being sexual. The same terms that are used to denote us as human beings, are also used to denote us as sexual beings. I can’t think of any more fundamental denial and rejection than that.

  5. Aydan says:

    I wish they knew that your behavior doesn’t define your orientation, and understood why analogies to other sexual orientations don’t quite work to illustrate that.

  6. queenieofaces says:

    I wish people realized that just because you “look straight” doesn’t mean you’re “basically straight.” According to some people, since I don’t “look queer” (whatever that means) and I date someone who uses he/him pronouns, I am basically a straight person. (Then again, this isn’t something that’s limited to aces, ’cause a lot of my bi friends have the same problem…)

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