Linkspam: February 22, 2019

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

This is several months old, but Yasmin talked about their bad experience with the BBC3 asexuality documentary (video).  There was also a text article on lappthebrand, but it was taken down and we only have quotes from it.

Lee discussed the issues and identities of people who don’t use the split attraction model.

Danyi wrote about how Valentine’s Day can be stressful for aces.

Posts from the January Carnival of Aces, on “Asexuality is a Blessing” are now available.

Nicky at Queering Closeness writes about the difficulty of finding the right labels for non-normative relationships

Dating while Ace reflects on their past year of blogging and dating.

Ace Community Activity

The Asexual released Vol. 2, Issue 4, on the theme of Thinking Attraction.

News & Outreach

Sky News made a short documentary about asexuality, and there’s an associated writeup.

It’s Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week (ASAW)!

Calls for Participants/Submissions

Aroworlds and Aromantic Official have both issued prompt posts for ASAW.

 

Question of the Week: February 19th, 2019.

What’s the most cliched thing anyone has said to you about your asexuality?

 

Someone actually asked me if I’d had my hormones checked the other day. They said some insightful things like being curious how someone who identified as ace might responded if they did get an increased libido due to hormone replacement therapy but still, jeeeeeez

 

Being grayromantic and not talking about it

This was written for this month’s blogging carnival on the theme of “The relationship between the aro and ace communities“.  Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week is also next week.

Some time last year, I mentioned offhand to my then-fiance that I was gray-romantic. He expressed surprise. So that’s embarrassing. Did I not mention that part?

I’m not sure when I started using the word “gray-romantic”, but I always thought of my sexual and romantic orientations as matched, so it’s been an obvious corollary of gray-asexuality for almost a decade. There’s the split attraction model, which allows people to separate out sexual and romantic attractions and orientations, but there are also a lot of people who can’t really distinguish between the two–like me.  I identify as gray-asexual because I don’t experience sexual attraction in normative patterns, and I’m not sure if it even “counts” as sexual attraction. And my romantic attraction is in an identical situation, by virtue of being identical as far as I can determine.

So why didn’t I talk about it? The rise of aromantic communities (and my experience helping to launch the Carnival of Aros) gives me cause to reflect back on this with chagrin. Maybe I should have talked about my romantic orientation more?

Carnival of Aces: Asexuality as a blessing

The Carnival of Aces for January has been posted on Demisexual and Proud.  The theme was “Asexuality as a blessing“.  Please take a look!

In case you missed the announcement, we are launching the Carnival of Aros as a sister carnival.  And in February, we’re starting out with a joint carnival, hosted by The Ace and Aro Advocacy Project, on the theme of “The Relationship Between the Aro and Ace Communities”.  Get your submissions in before the end of the month!

The Carnival of Aces is hosted by volunteers.  If you would like to volunteer, please see the masterpost for instructions.  The Carnival of Aros is looking for hosts as well.

Question of the Week: February 5th, 2019.

Do you have any good experiences with health care professionals?

My therapist is really good, but even she made a fairly disparaging comment when I talked about maybe being ace. Does anyone have any good experiences with therapists or other health professionals?

Linkspam: February 1, 2019

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

dictionaryjane wrote about why they stopped following The Discourse.

AmeliaAce made a video series about the Split Attraction Model in two parts.

Ace Community Activity

The NYC aces group is fundraising for a WorldPride Ace & Aro Conference this summer.

Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week is coming soon, on February 17-23.

News & Outreach

Rothblum, Heimann, and Carpenter published a paper on “The lives of asexual individuals outside of sexual and romantic relationships: education, occupation, religion and community”

If you’ve been wondering what David Jay (of AVEN-founding fame) has been up to, he recently did an interview about his adventures in becoming a third parent.

Calls for Participants/Submissions

TAAAP is looking for submissions on the topic of “The relationship between ace and aro communities” for the February Carnival of Aces.

The Carnival of Aros, a new aromantic spectrum blogging carnival, is looking for volunteer hosts for future months.

Introducing: the Carnival of Aros

By Siggy & Sennkestra, mirrored here

TL;DR: A blogging carnival is a regularly occurring event that collects submissions from bloggers and other creators on a single topic.  One example is The Asexual Agenda’s Carnival of Aces. Now, we are excited to announce the launch of a new sister carnival, the Carnival of Aros. This February, both carnivals are holding a joint event hosted by The Ace & Aro Advocacy Project, which is now accepting submissions on the theme of “The Relationship Between the Aro and Ace Communities”.  From March onwards, the Carnival of Aros will continue as an independent project, managed by Sennkestra, at its own website.  If you would like to participate or help, see the section “How you can help” at the bottom.

How it all started

As many of you may know, The Asexual Agenda has long sponsored the Carnival of Aces, an asexual blogging carnival founded in 2011. Every month, a new blog hosts the carnival, meaning that they publicly declare a theme, and then collect submissions from bloggers and other creators on that theme.  Recently, The Ace and Aro Advocacy Project (TAAAP) asked to host the Carnival of Aces on the theme of “The Relationship Between the Aro and Ace Communities”, as part of their rebranding effort. In response, we observed that the Carnival of Aces, while it is inclusive of arospec aces, does little to actively include arospec people specifically on the basis of their aromanticism.  But perhaps there was some way it could?