Linkspam: September 23rd, 2016

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

Redbeardace says you’re not alone.

Inspired by a conversation on tumblr, Sennkestra started a thread about sex toys on her blog.

butterflo updated their model of sexual orientation.

aceadmiral wrote about gender and ace representation in fiction.

swankivy wrote about how you shouldn’t assume that your relationship will have a required amount of sex without negotiating with your partner.

Ace Community Activity

The Spring 2017 Asexual Scholarship is accepting applications.

Calls for Participants/Submissions

Ace Radio is looking for special contributors.

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Linkspam: September 16th, 2016

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

luvtheheaven is trying to get a better understanding of what typical heterosexuality really is.

Calls for Participants/Submissions

ACEs, a Spanish association for the rights of asexual people, is looking for volunteers.

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Linkspam: September 9th, 2016

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

Coyote offered some guidelines on how to support people who aren’t willing to label their experiences as sexual violence.

Ace Community Activity

Sciatrix has started an asexual community on Imzy.

News & Outreach

There’s a petition to include asexuality in the UK 2021 Census.  (As a note, the UK Census is where Bogaert originally got the 1% statistic from.)

Sweden’s official twitter account featured a homoromantic asexual trans spokesperson this week.

The Daily Beast published an article asserting there’s nothing wrong with being asexual.

Calls for Participants/Submissions

The University of Kansas Center for Sexuality and Gender Diversity is looking for a speaker for Asexual Awareness Week.

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Bad Experiences in University (Part Two): Dating While Asexual

While in university, I’ve come across people that haven’t understood or have made assumptions about asexuality that have been extremely difficult for me to deal with. In part one, I discussed an incident that occurred while I was participating in a project with Spectrum’s activism committee.

A lot of the time when people think about university they think about going to parties and bars and the general hook-up culture that seems to permeate the air. A lot of people make assumptions about what a university student is supposed to be like and do, especially when it comes to sex and relationships. There’s not “right” way to be a university student, and listening to generalizations doesn’t exactly build a person’s confidence, especially when you are a bit different from everyone else. For part 2, I’d like to talk about the one, brief romantic relationship I was in during my university years.

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Question of the Week: September 6th, 2016

Do you feel that your aceness is connected to your gender or gender expression, or do you feel that they are unrelated?

It’s no secret that ace communities are mostly composed of women and non-binary people.  But this question is not about objective correlations, it’s about your subjective experience.

For me, I would say being ace has little to do with me being male.  However, being ace has affected my gender expression slightly.  I am simultaneously more aware of my gender expression and care less about it.

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Data feels

cn: rape, sexual violence, & CSA juxtaposed with cold data.  This is being crossposted to my other blog.

Some of my most important activist work is in volunteering technical skills for the Asexual Census, a survey of English online ace communities. This past week, I’ve been on a roll analyzing our 2015 survey. No numbers will be reported here, this is just a personal account.

Unsurprisingly, as soon as I was done with prep work, my attention was drawn to the statistics on sexual violence. As a programmer, I’ve been trained to always use descriptive variable names. Now I’m looking at variables named “rape” and “rapeCombined”.
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Linkspam: September 2nd, 2016

Ace Blogging

Sennkestra wants to hear your first clue stories.

Sennkestra posted an excerpt from Sex and the Significant Americans, which might be of interest to aces.

Ace Community Activity

The Aces in the Church zine has been released.

Aces and aros are wanted for the 2017 Creating Change Conference.

 

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