Linkspam: October 21st, 2016

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

Sara will be reviewing asexual novel(la)s for Asexual Awareness Week.

Ace Community Activity

Asexual Awareness Week will run next week, October 23 to 29.

News & Outreach

The frontman of Deerhunter, Bradford Cox, said he is asexual in an interview.

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Question of the Week: October 18th, 2016

What topic do you think gets too little attention in ace communities?

Off the top of my head, I think there is not much attention paid to the actual logistics of finding partners who have compatible desires for a relationship.  Like, there aren’t any really successful “dating” sites.  And most discussion centers around personal feelings and desires, rather than how to assess the compatibility of two people’s desires.

Another thing I personally wish to see more of is navigating queer male spaces and politics as an ace.  Unfortunately I think the reason this doesn’t get much attention is that it’s relevant to too few people.

But these are just what I thought up off the top of my head.  Perhaps you have some better ideas.

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How we talk about asexuality: reflections on workshop structure

Most of you have probably seen at least one workshop about asexuality. Either you saw it at a conference, or there was one held for Asexual Awareness Week, or maybe you just watched one online. However, you might not have given much thought to the particular structure that the workshop uses. In fact, the workshop structure says a lot about the rising awareness of asexuality.

I used to run asexuality workshops, in the period 2010-2014, and those workshops follow a very different structure from most workshops today. Basically, I would lecture people. Then they’d ask me questions. These days, the most common workshop structure appears to be a panel, which makes my lectures seem so quaint.

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Reminder: Looking for contributors

As a reminder, we are still looking for new contributors to The Asexual Agenda.  Applications should be in by next Friday, October 21st.  See the details here.  We have not received any applications yet.

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Linkspam: October 14th, 2016

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

Vesper talked about confusing gender envy with attraction.

Sennkestra shared court records from the Hollingsworth v. Perry case that mention asexuality as well as some coming out stories.

Ace Community Activity

The Asexual is an online literary journal, and is looking for submissions.

Ace-Spec-Tacular announced their AAW scheduling.

News & Outreach

Dylan Edwards made a comic showing his journey from evangelical Christian to asexual trans man.

There’s a new academic article on asexuality and asexual activism in Croatia and Serbia.

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Unduly detailed thoughts on aesthetic attraction

I think about aesthetic attraction frequently, because it comes up in my daily commute. I… see people. All the time. And I find it very strange, particularly since I used to not experience aesthetic attraction at all.

I think about this a lot, but have only ever talked about it in broad terms. One big reason is that I don’t like when other people talk about it. Growing up without aesthetic attraction, conversations on the topic were always a source of dissonance and distance. This is still true now. The details of attraction are too detailed. They are fundamentally incomprehensible and unrelatable.

And worst of all, I suspect that my internal experiences, while fascinating to me, are simply boring to anyone else. But perhaps not to this audience. Read on if you’re interested.
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Question of the Week: October 11th, 2016.

Has anyone guessed or assumed you were asexual without being told? Have you ever correctly guessed someone else was asexual? 

Most people assume I’m straight and then assume I’m bisexual once my gender indifference comes up so this hasn’t happened to me, but every once in a while when I tell someone I’m asexual they say “oh I have a friend I think is asexual.” Usually their guess is based on the friend’s assumed lack of interest in dating (which they then assume means little or no interest in sex). I wonder how often the people they guess are asexual actually identify that way themselves.

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