Question of the Week: March 28th 2017

How often do you use social media? 

I love the idea of social media but I don’t really use it much. My Facebook wall has a few cute animal videos I put up like every other month. I never quite figured out what I’d have to tweet about so I don’t have a Twitter. Instagram quickly got boring and I deleted it off my phone. I rarely use Tumblr these days, but only a few years ago I used to log onto it multiple times a day. Back when Myspace came out I was on it constantly. I’m glad social media exists because I have all these people I could connect with if I ever wanted to, but for whatever reason I don’t find myself logging on. What about you?

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Linkspam: March 24th, 2017

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

Chloé Osmond is disappointed in the new spinoff of The Big Bang Theory.

Sennkestra has a working draft on ace healthcare resources.

destinationtoast posted a bunch of statistical analysis of aromanticism and asexuality in fanfiction on AO3. (part 2 and part 2.5)

News & Outreach

Andrew Hinderliter has a dissertation on the evolution of online asexual discourse.

There’s a new academic paper on LGBTIQ young people’s mental health help-seeking and the RAD Australia Online Directory that includes quotes from asexual respondents.

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Question of the Week: March 21st, 2017

Whom have you used as a model of what a relationship should look like?

I believe that my relationship models mostly came from friends.  And not from friends talking about their relationships, but merely by witnessing them in relationships.  The result was that I didn’t really understand what couples do when they’re not around friends.  I didn’t know how long it took them to reach the point where I was seeing them together.  I wasn’t sure why it was they got together, or split apart.  If any friends ever had first dates that failed, I never heard anything about it.

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Ace Tropes: Drawing the No-Sex Line

Sara K. blogs at The Notes Which Do Not Fit, and has written a number of book reviews of asexual fiction.  She is continuing the ace tropes series, albeit with more of a focus on books.

Note: this post discusses sexual consent.

Ilsa summoned her voice with difficulty. “I just assumed you wanted to sleep with me.”

“Well… yeah, I mean. I definitely want that, too.”

“Kai, I’m not… I don’t… You get that that’s never going to happen, right?”

“Never?” Kai echoed, fading hope on the cusp of heartbreak.

“Never,” Ilsa repeated firmly.

Open Skies by Yolande Kleinn

Some aces are willing to have sex under some circumstances. Some aces, however, have made up their minds that they are never going to consent to sex, period. They are aware of their own asexuality, even if they do not use the word ‘asexual’ because they come from a culture which has different vocabulary to describe (a)sexuality. And they communicate this very clearly when they think it’s necessary. Continue reading

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Linkspam: March 17th, 2017

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

Comicsverse ran an article about Jughead and asexual representation.

Ren wrote about Jughead, Raphael, and aro/ace representation.

Penny Stirling also wrote about aro ace representation and Jughead.

writer-ace wrote about Raphael and asexual representation.

Asexuality Archive wrote about the prospect of romance.

Ace Community Activity

The March/April 2017 issue of AVENues has been released.


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Linkspam: March 10th, 2017

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

Georgia has tips for designing surveys that measure asexuals.

Coyote has a linkspam of ace community issues.

Coyote says sex is just one planet out of galaxies.

News & Outreach

There’s a new academic article on mental health disparities among gender and sexual minorities that includes a section on asexuality.

Queerty has a short interview with an ace guy.  Also, we missed an article last year with Whisper images from gay and asexual men.

Raphael was confirmed to be asexual on Shadowhunters.

New webcomic with a canon ace/aro protagonist: StarHammer

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Question of the Week: March 7th, 2017.

Do you feel nostalgic for anything from your childhood?

[cn: food]

I feel nostalgic for a lot of dishes my mother used to make.  Now that I’m older I realize some of them were unusual on account of being Chinese or Filipino, and I could lose access to them forever if I don’t make an effort to preserve them.  For example, I was surprised when my boyfriend did not know what Chicken Adobo is–isn’t that a standard dish?  Except apparently it’s only standard in Filipino cuisine.  I had to look up how to make it, apparently it’s quite easy.  One of these days I will figure out how to make a vegetarian version.

Another example came up over winter break, my mother made some rice cake.  I never would have recalled this rice cake without prompting, but it’s something my mother used to make all the time.  I did not even know what it was called!  My mother said it was tikoy.  So far I have been unable to replicate it, but I’ll get there.

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