Question of the Week: April 25th, 2017.

Now that the weather is getting nice, what’s your favourite thing to do outside? 

As soon as it got warm enough I brought my yoga practice outside. I also write, read, and meditate outdoors when I can. Changing the space and doing a routine activity outside lifts my mood. Later this week a friend suggested having tea and bringing art supplies outside and drawing together. An acquaintance I know just mentioned he bought weights to do some lifting in the sun. What about you? Are there any hobbies or routines you’re reinvigorating by doing them out in the sun?

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Linkspam: April 21st, 2017

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

SwankIvy talks about pride.

Sara reviewed the “Love Minus Sex” section of Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator.

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Question of the Week: April 18th, 2017

Do you like to wear things that are purple, or in other ace or aro colors?

I’ve known many people at ace meetups to wear purple, often in scarves, shirts, or cardigans.  As was discussed in  the last Carnival of Aces, wearing the right colors can be a way of expressing pride to oneself, without being out.  A similar form of expression is to wear a black ring.

I tend not to express myself through clothing myself, but I love to see other people doing it.

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Ace Tropes: Ace in a Poly

Sara K. blogs at The Notes Which Do Not Fit, and has written a number of book reviews of asexual fiction. She is continuing the ace tropes series.

Content Note: this post contains some non-explicit discussion of sex.

“I have no inclinations or desires to be with others, Katerini,” he said, much slower this time, as if she wouldn’t understand.

Which was good, because she didn’t. She scoffed in disbelief. “Excuse me, dear brother? You have two lovers … Not one, but two.”

Breakfire’s Glass by A.M. Valenza

Quite a bit of the ace fiction I’ve read features ace characters in polyamorous situations. This makes sense, since the there seems to be a correlation between being aware of asexuality and being aware of polyamory.

What is polyamory? I could offer a short definition such as ‘it’s having romantic or otherwise emotionally intimate bonds with multiple people’, but people who don’t already know what ‘polyamory’ means are probably better off reading a multi-paragraph explanation such as this one. Continue reading

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Ace Tropes: And There Is a Human

Sara K. blogs at The Notes Which Do Not Fit, and has written a number of book reviews of asexual fiction.  She is continuing the ace tropes series.

Another few heart-pounding moments passed, and then Sal [robot] curled closer, rolling from her back to her side to press more tightly to Clara, hold her close. “I can’t—physically,” Sal said. “I mean, I’m not designed to be sexual. That’s to say, I can act on others, but I don’t want—”

“That’s okay. Me neither.”

“Oh, but—”

“It’s not something I need from someone else,” Clara [human] said firmly, willing Sal to understand.

– “The Cybernetic Teashop” by Meredith Katz

Sometimes a story which has a nonhuman ace and/or aro – particularly a type of nonhuman who tends to lack emotion – also has an ace and/or aro character who is human and has a more typical set of emotions. For example, in the story excerpted above, there is Sal, who is a robot, and Clara, who is a human, and they are both ace. The presence of the human ace and/or aro character may signal that, just because the nonhuman ace and/or aro character is there, does not mean that all aces and/or aros are like that. Continue reading

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Linkspam: April 7th, 2017

Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting.  We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!

Ace Blogging

Sara discusses supporting ace representation in fiction, and has further comments on Clariel.

Ace Community Activity

Sennkestra is looking for LGBT orgs that have are ace-inclusive or have expressed interest in ace-inclusion.

News & Outreach

There is a new study of asexual identity in a New Zealand national sample.

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Ace Tropes: Ace Police

This is a part of the series on ace tropes in fiction.  It was written by Siggy, but Sara K. suggested the idea and provided some examples.

Marcella shook her head. “Anything sexual makes you not an Ace. Touching yourself is included in that. So is kissing and lots of other stuff that we don’t do.”

A lot of the people looked surprised by that, and Seth raised his eyebrows. “Uh. I like kissing. But I don’t have sex or think about sex or anything like that. And you’re being combative.”

Of Monsters and Men, Chapter 14

It’s common for fiction to depict allosexuals policing the identity and behavior of aces.  But sometimes, the policing comes from other aces.  This can particularly sting, because it can happen in spaces that are supposed to be safe.  It might also come from people that you hold in respect or in authority.

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