What does your ideal local ace meetup look like?
Different people seem to want different things from their ace meetup groups, with some wanting to talk about ace-related troubles, some wanting to just talk about whatever, and other people wanting more activities.
Personally, I appreciate talking about whatever. I have my own very narrow interests, and it’s fun to get out of that box and hear about the completely random things that other people are interested in. I also like to talk about ace stuff but I inevitably talk about internet and organizational politics which even at an ace meetup not everyone is interested in.
Content warning: Medicalization of asexuality and comparison to abuse.
It’s well-known that English asexual communities are dominated by people in the US, UK, Canada, and Australia. This blog has made minimal efforts to include voices from other countries, but one of our blind spots is China. You know, that one country that has three times more people than the US, UK, Canada, and Australia combined.
The thing is, between the language barrier and the Great Firewall, hardly anyone in the English-speaking community knows anything. The closest we’ve gotten is our interview with Robin, but Taiwan isn’t the same as Mainland China at all. And given the complete lack of communication, it’s possible that asexuality in China is so different as to be unrecognizable.
That’s why I was interested to see this recent paper: Asexuality in China’s Sexual Revolution: Asexual Marriage as a Coping Strategy. By Day Wong, in Sexualities, February 2015.
Asexual people have always had difficulty with media representation. Most frequently, everything is oversimplified, only a narrow portion of the asexual spectrum is presented, and often aromantics are either ignored or presented as “those weird ones” in opposition to an assimilationist presentation of alloromantic aces along the lines of “they can fall in love and even have sex, too!” Continue reading
Every Friday, we will share links to news, blogs, and anything else we find interesting. We can’t catch everything, so you are invited to self-promote in the comments!
redbeardace wants to know what it’s important for educators to know about asexuality.
tristifere wants to know when the Tumblr ace community started.
Matthew Munson doesn’t want to be identified solely by asexuality.
The Advocate began their #21AceStories series by asking aces to talk about misconceptions they’ve faced. The second post in the series, contrasting asexuality and celibacy, drew criticism from aces on Twitter for excluding the perspectives of survivors. The author responded.
The Independent (a UK newspaper) published a piece on asexuality by Anthony Bogaert.
nextstepcake is looking for aces planning on going to Creating Change next year.
Sennkestra had some suggestions for boosting APoC representation.
There’s a North American Asexuality Conference zine being put together.
Aqua is looking for feedback on her voluntary celibacy page.
Flying While Falling Down writes about limited asexual representation in media.
rotten-zucchinis wrote about the question of queerness and cis heteroromantic aces.
Demisexual and Proud wrote about asexuality and chastity.
What have other people said or done that makes you feel comfortable as an ace person? If you don’t have any examples from personal experience, what would you want to hear? Continue reading